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funeral attire

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Oddly Familiar, Apr 10, 2006.

  1. Oddly Familiar

    Oddly Familiar Senior member

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    I'm going to a funeral wednesday, and am wearing a black shirt with white pinstripes, black slacks and dress shoes naturally. What other color slacks are suitable to wear with the shirt/ shoes? Also, I have a tie but it's purple. Is that acceptable for a funeral?
     
  2. AlanC

    AlanC Senior member

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    I would opt for a white dress shirt, and a dark, conservative/understated tie. A black tie would be ideal, but it's not absolutely necessary. Avoid red.

    You want to be somber, respectful and not draw attention to yourself.
     
  3. whoopee

    whoopee Senior member

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    Purple, being a colour, normally wouldn't be appropriate, unless the funeral goers understand the religious symbolism (purple -> death, mourning).
     
  4. Oddly Familiar

    Oddly Familiar Senior member

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    I'm going thrift store shopping tomorrow, so I may just go with a more traditional outfit. White shirt, black tie, black slacks. Thanks guys!
     
  5. DocHolliday

    DocHolliday Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    You don't have to go entirely black and white, just somber.
     
  6. Huntsman

    Huntsman Senior member

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    For whatever reason, a white shirt sans jacket seems a little bright. A dark grey/charcoal would be ideal, methinks.

    Regards,
    Huntsman
     
  7. Arethusa

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    Jovan Senior member

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    I'd go with a patterned dark red or dark blue tie personally, preferably striped.
     
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    I was thinking something suiting the mood of a New Orleans funeral.
     
  10. Nick M

    Nick M Senior member

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    You don't have to go entirely black and white, just somber.
    Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I've found that someone dressed entirely in black and white is the exception, rather than the rule. I've mostly seen dark gray and navy.

    Sorry for your loss, OF.
     
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    Would dark chocolate brown be alright for a sombre occasion like this?
     
  12. lameduck

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    -Black or Navy suit
    -White poplin shirt
    -Black tie
    -Black shoes
     
  13. alflauren

    alflauren Senior member

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    White suit.

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  14. Matt

    Matt Senior member

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    if youre going thrifting, why not pick up a dark charcoal (or even black) suit

    you will get more use out of the charcoal later, but funerals are one of those occassions where even SF wont lynch you for a black suit, and since itll be six bucks at thrift store, then you dont need to be overly concerned with it as an investment in future wear...
     
  15. Arethusa

    Arethusa Senior member

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    Would dark chocolate brown be alright for a sombre occasion like this?
    Generally, no, it would not be socially acceptable. Whether that matters to you or not is another matter, naturally.
     
  16. Jen

    Jen Senior member

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    Unfortunately, I attended two separate memorial services yesterday, and the attire was quite varied. Some of the men were wearing the traditional black suit with a muted (though not black) tie, but others wore an odd jacket, and some were in still more casual clothing.

    It seems to me that what was more significant to the grieving families than the attire of the attendees was their presence and their rembrances.


    BTW, It should perhaps also be mentioned that both of the deceased were mathematicians, and we are not generally known for our sartorial intelligence.
     
  17. JLibourel

    JLibourel Senior member

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    I've had the misfortune to attend five funerals or memorial services in the past year and a half. Three of them were for people I was very close to--my mother-in-law and two of my closest friends. At least in Southern Californa, almost any "respectful" attire, e.g, coat and tie, would seem more than acceptible. Many men these days, at least in my part of the world, will attend a funeral tie-less and even coat-less. For the three more "formal" funerals I wore my midnight blue Chan suit with a dark blue Charvet tie to my mother-in-law's. I wore a dark charcoal pinstripe and a blue tie to a beloved neighbor's. To the third I wore a the same dark charcoal pinstripe and a black tie. I thought the black tie might be more appropriate since it was an Italian funeral. The deceased's name was Al Capone! (Well, actually "Al" was a nickname. He was a very highly respected gunsmith.) White shirt and black shoes every time. I don't recall ever seeing a black suit at any of the five events.
     
  18. Charley

    Charley Senior member

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    I would not wear a black shirt to ANY event - including a a funeral.

    Best advice - dark charcoal suit, white shirt (poplin, broadcloth, oxford) black tie grenadine, black shoes.

    If black is unavailable for these items, use deep navy - except for the shoes.
     
  19. stach

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    I went to a Ukranian Orthodox funeral in NYC last week and almost everyone was in black. I was suprised but I guess it is a very traditional order. I wore off white and I felt somewhat out of place. I wore a black coat and slacks for the viewing.
     
  20. Kid609

    Kid609 Senior member

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    It's a funeral. Its not that hard.

    Wear a business suit with a dark tie.
     

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