- Feb 5, 2004
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Let me take a moment to explain my situation. The dating situation in Korea for Americans is neither here nor there. There's an unfortunate disparity between the kind of girls I want, and the kind of girls who want an American. I've heard people go on and on about how they're landing all these gorgeous Korean girls despite being dumpy looking dudes, but when I've finally come face to face with said "gorgeous Korean girls," it's always been underwhelming. I've come to accept that my pickings are not creme of the crop. I'm not an expert on Korean culture, but all signs point to a very slim likelihood that really attractive girls would go for a non-Korean who isn't balla status. If these princesses are only interested in body-hairless guys who text them 800 times a day and carry their designer purses around for them, then so be it. Even with my compromised expectations, I still have gotten nothing but shit. I broke up with my girlfriend about three months ago, and since then I've had nothing but failure after failure after failure. I haven't had this poor luck in dating in years, and it's not only disheartening, but I can't fucking figure out why SO many times, I will have an absolutely stellar evening with a girl, only to be ignored in the following weeks. Yes. Now it's happened THREE times, where I've gone out on good dates, made them laugh, did all the right things that work for girls in the States, only to be met with miserable, mortifying failure. One girl who I met was a rare gem in that she actually had developed her own taste in music, movies, culture, etc. and shocked me to near oblivion when she told me her favorite movie is Once. Meeting such a girl is no rare feat in the USA, but while I often associate this kind of taste with all kinds of negative stereotypes, for this girl it all worked out because she's sharp – a student of the top university in Korea, 7 in looks, maybe more if you have a generous scale (which is fine by me), a fantastic body, and most of all she speaks English well. I did the whole "disappearing act" where I didn't contact her after originally meeting her. (to be fair I didn't do it on purpose, there was another girl, much cuter, who was admittedly very much into me at the time). I texted the Once girl a few weeks later, and was met with the response, "It's been too long since we talked. I MISS YOU SO MUCH." Of course I was slightly shocked, and kind of excited to get this kind of response. Yet in the coming weeks, every scheduled plan we had, she would cancel on me the day before. This week she tells me "I really want to see you" and when I suggested that we meet on the weekend –Â for some harmless fucking coffee –Â I get another bullshit excuse and rejection. This is not a singular experience. Damn near the same thing has happened to me three times now. This really cute girl (previously mentioned) who was an excellent dancer, who I went on numerous very successful dinner/drinks/dancing dates on with, and who on our last meet was hanging off my arm while we walked home, talking about how happy she was. After that? Not a fucking word. No response to texts, no response to email, no response to phone calls. I've had girls who found me online seem to revel in excitement with the opportunity to meet completely cut me off from communication the day before the scheduled date with not a word of explanation. My latest was a girl who I went out with on saturday night, had a good conversation with, impressed her friends who all think I'm a decent looking guy, and even received a follow-up "how are you" call not but 30 minutes after the date was over. Four days ago, it was looking fantastic. As of two days ago, I'm feeling insignificant, as of today it appears I've been cut off completely. AGAIN. What the fuck am I doing wrong? I only attempt contact every couple of days, I usually keep it brief and don't do anything that lands you in the "friend zone," yet every woman I've began to get close to just shuts the damn door on me and walks off without a single explanation as to what the hell is going on. It's not like I'm fighting out of my league here. I'm not a bad looking guy, and in many respects I think I'd be a pretty decent catch, and its not like I'm going for the queens of Korea. Most of these girls are 6-7s with an occasional 8. I'm in hopeful contact with a 9 right now but of course I don't expect much given my history. Has anyone else had such a miserable streak of failure as I'm going through right now?