First lunch date - pocket square?

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  1. whiteslashasian

    whiteslashasian Senior member

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    I refrained from wearing a pocket square on the first date with my current girlfriend, my roommates said it was "too much". Later on I asked her if I had worn it on the first date if she would have gone on subsequent dates with me, she replied jokingly "possibly not" but then added that it would have been a little weird for a first date but not deal breaker.

    Now she gives me unsolicited advice and critique on my pocket square combinations and folds (usually pretty good advice tough). One time I didn't wear a pocket square to a party and she immediately asked me why I was missing one!
     


  2. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

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    ...Later on I asked her if I had worn it on the first date if she would have gone on subsequent dates with me, she replied jokingly "possibly not"...

    Listen to this guy ^

    Leave your ps 'til the second date.
     


  3. unjung

    unjung Senior member

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    I refrained from wearing a pocket square on the first date with my current girlfriend, my roommates said it was "too much". Later on I asked her if I had worn it on the first date if she would have gone on subsequent dates with me, she replied jokingly "possibly not" but then added that it would have been a little weird for a first date but not deal breaker.

    Now she gives me unsolicited advice and critique on my pocket square combinations and folds (usually pretty good advice tough). One time I didn't wear a pocket square to a party and she immediately asked me why I was missing one!


    If I were going out in jeans and a sport coat, I would skip it. The OP implied he'd already be wearing a suit so I think the PS is appropriate.
     


  4. pdial

    pdial Senior member

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    gotcha, thanks.

    you must be a) single, or b) a redneck.


    Dude it sounds like she has your nuts in a jar under the sink.
     


  5. Risque

    Risque Well-Known Member

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    What is the intent of this date? In other words, does she know that you are legitimately interested in her, or is there ANY chance at all she thinks this is just a "lunch between friends/coworkers?" Because there's a big difference Pocket square will only help in the latter case. Otherwise it's a distraction imo.
    Good questions. She doesn't know there's legitimate interest, but there's an inkling. I'm going for the impression that I've given it some thought, but not *too* much thought, if you get my drift. Going to a cafe/wine bar, nice decor but nothing overly flash. May just try to nail the shirt/tie combo. Dark charcoal suit with light blue pinstripe, white with fine light blue check shirt, and baby pink paisley tie. Thoughts - any better colours for ties? Thanks for all the ideas, chaps.
     


  6. niidawg3

    niidawg3 Senior member

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    1. possible lunch
    2. with co-worker
    3. bothered about her thoughts on your ps or otherwise

    dude - come on maaaaaan!!
     


  7. pdial

    pdial Senior member

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    OP, if a little piece of fabric sticking out of your pocket makes it or breaks with a woman, then you don't want anything to do with her anyway.

    Just wear what you want to wear and don't worry about it.
     


  8. gsugsu

    gsugsu Senior member

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    I wear PS' a day or two a week in an office where suits are the requirement, but the ol' PS doesn't get much of a workout amongst the other males.

    Going out for a lunch date (well, an undefined lunch) with a female coworker tomorrow, and wanted to hear thoughts on whether going the PS would be a good bet or not.

    Ta [​IMG]


    If she is a co-worker, has she seen you in a PS before? Has she remarked on it?
     


  9. Finsen

    Finsen Senior member

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    Just wear what you would normally wear. Don't do something that's not "you", or you will end up coming across as trying too hard.

    Just be you and rock her panties off.
     


  10. MyOtherLife

    MyOtherLife Senior member

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    I wear PS' a day or two a week in an office where suits are the requirement, but the ol' PS doesn't get much of a workout amongst the other males.

    Going out for a lunch date (well, an undefined lunch) with a female coworker tomorrow, and wanted to hear thoughts on whether going the PS would be a good bet or not.

    Ta [​IMG]


    She's a co-worker, already accustomed to seeing you wearing them, therefore ofcourse wear one.
    Don't miss the opportunity to use it too, should the need arise. Good luck! Keep us updated.
     


  11. JohnsNotHere

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    Never waste an opportunity to look your best!

    +1
     


  12. furo

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    Good questions. She doesn't know there's legitimate interest, but there's an inkling.

    I'm going for the impression that I've given it some thought, but not *too* much thought, if you get my drift. Going to a cafe/wine bar, nice decor but nothing overly flash.

    May just try to nail the shirt/tie combo. Dark charcoal suit with light blue pinstripe, white with fine light blue check shirt, and baby pink paisley tie. Thoughts - any better colours for ties?

    Thanks for all the ideas, chaps.


    If she doesn't know there's legitimate interest then you've already failed.

    But there is hope

    1. DO NOT pay for her lunch
    2. Ensure that within five minutes of sitting down she knows this isn't casual lunch between friends, i.e. you are interested in more than her accounting skills.
    3. Pocket square can work in this case but it should be the last thing on your mind, so if you aren't 100% comfortable wearing it, leave it at the desk.

    This might sound blunt but it will save you time and money.

    That way by the second date you have her at your place for dinner.
     


  13. FStyles

    FStyles Senior member

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    Dude it sounds like she has your nuts in a jar under the sink.
    easy there tiger. If you're attached in any way, do you do exactly as your woman tells you? Me either. I was simply offering once again, POV. Not what my w0menz commands me to do. but spanx for noticing. =)
     


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    OP, if a little piece of fabric sticking out of your pocket makes it or breaks with a woman, then you don't want anything to do with her anyway.

    Just wear what you want to wear and don't worry about it.


    +1 The real question is what shoes are you going to wear. Thats infinitely more important.
     


  15. Chargersfan

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    I might humbly suggest that any guy who writes things like 'w0menz' & 'spanx' has probably already shown their hand, so to speak...

    OP wear what you would normally, if that includes a PS, then wear a PS.
     


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