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First lunch date - pocket square?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Risque, Oct 20, 2009.

  1. Risque

    Risque Well-Known Member

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    I wear PS' a day or two a week in an office where suits are the requirement, but the ol' PS doesn't get much of a workout amongst the other males.

    Going out for a lunch date (well, an undefined lunch) with a female coworker tomorrow, and wanted to hear thoughts on whether going the PS would be a good bet or not.

    Ta [​IMG]
     
  2. whiteslashasian

    whiteslashasian Senior member

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    I would DEFINITELY rock a pocket square.
     
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    Without any doubt.
     
  5. Joe Cool

    Joe Cool Senior member

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    Pro Tip: Use a sweaty white athletic sock instead.

    WARNING: Get all your work for the day done before leaving. The two of you will not be returning to the office after lunch.
     
  6. Risque

    Risque Well-Known Member

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    Pro Tip: Use a sweaty white athletic sock instead.
    I don't want her to think I'm a jock, Joe.

    If it lasts all afternoon, I'm a lucky man. Will let y'all know how it ends up. If she likes the PS, I'll be sure to moan styleforum when things get to the next level.
     
  7. furo

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    I don't want her to think I'm a jock, Joe.

    If it lasts all afternoon, I'm a lucky man. Will let y'all know how it ends up. If she likes the PS, I'll be sure to moan styleforum when things get to the next level.


    What is the intent of this date?

    In other words, does she know that you are legitimately interested in her, or is there ANY chance at all she thinks this is just a "lunch between friends/coworkers?"

    Because there's a big difference

    Pocket square will only help in the latter case. Otherwise it's a distraction imo.
     
  8. unjung

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    I don't want her to think I'm a jock, Joe.

    If it lasts all afternoon, I'm a lucky man. Will let y'all know how it ends up. If she likes the PS, I'll be sure to moan styleforum when things get to the next level.


    Pics will be fine, thank you.
     
  9. FStyles

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    <-----Monkey wrench<---------

    My lady hates pocket squares. She insists that I do not wear them when I'm out with her (unless we're at a formal function).

    her justification/reasoning is that guys look like they're trying to hard when they rock the PS. And the worst thing in the world is a guy who trys *too* hard. In fact at a recent group outing all her slut faced *single* friends thought it was a hoot to point out my "gay" tendencies like pocket square wearing and love for anal sex with men.
     
  10. unjung

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    <-----Monkey wrench<---------

    My lady hates pocket squares. She insists that I do not wear them when I'm out with her (unles we;re at a formal funtion)

    her justificatin/reasoning is that guys look like they're trying to hard when they rock the PS. And the worst thing in the world is a guy who trys *too* hard.


    There are two other "worse" things in the world:
    -Guys who wear PSs to formal events;
    -And guys who take marching orders on men's style from women.
     
  11. furo

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    There are two other "worse" things in the world:
    -Guys who wear PSs to formal events;
    -And guys who take marching orders on men's style from women.


    So you attend Black Tie events without a PS?
     
  12. FStyles

    FStyles Senior member

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    There are two other "worse" things in the world: -Guys who wear PSs to formal events; -And guys who take marching orders on men's style from women.
    gotcha, thanks. you must be a) single, or b) a redneck.
     
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    PS is ideal for these types of situations...common courtesy is for you to hand it to her to clean herself up after you finish your "date" [​IMG]
     
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    Just to clarify I'm not saying to NOT wear one (grammar police fuck off), I'm just giving a female perspective from personal exp.
     
  15. IBJanky

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    I wear PS' a day or two a week in an office where suits are the requirement, but the ol' PS doesn't get much of a workout amongst the other males.

    Going out for a lunch date (well, an undefined lunch) with a female coworker tomorrow, and wanted to hear thoughts on whether going the PS would be a good bet or not.

    Ta [​IMG]


    Absofrikkinlutely...

    Never waste an opportunity to look your best!

    myke
     
  16. whiteslashasian

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    I refrained from wearing a pocket square on the first date with my current girlfriend, my roommates said it was "too much". Later on I asked her if I had worn it on the first date if she would have gone on subsequent dates with me, she replied jokingly "possibly not" but then added that it would have been a little weird for a first date but not deal breaker.

    Now she gives me unsolicited advice and critique on my pocket square combinations and folds (usually pretty good advice tough). One time I didn't wear a pocket square to a party and she immediately asked me why I was missing one!
     
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    Dakota rube Senior member

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    ...Later on I asked her if I had worn it on the first date if she would have gone on subsequent dates with me, she replied jokingly "possibly not"...

    Listen to this guy ^

    Leave your ps 'til the second date.
     
  18. unjung

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    I refrained from wearing a pocket square on the first date with my current girlfriend, my roommates said it was "too much". Later on I asked her if I had worn it on the first date if she would have gone on subsequent dates with me, she replied jokingly "possibly not" but then added that it would have been a little weird for a first date but not deal breaker.

    Now she gives me unsolicited advice and critique on my pocket square combinations and folds (usually pretty good advice tough). One time I didn't wear a pocket square to a party and she immediately asked me why I was missing one!


    If I were going out in jeans and a sport coat, I would skip it. The OP implied he'd already be wearing a suit so I think the PS is appropriate.
     
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    gotcha, thanks.

    you must be a) single, or b) a redneck.


    Dude it sounds like she has your nuts in a jar under the sink.
     
  20. Risque

    Risque Well-Known Member

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    What is the intent of this date? In other words, does she know that you are legitimately interested in her, or is there ANY chance at all she thinks this is just a "lunch between friends/coworkers?" Because there's a big difference Pocket square will only help in the latter case. Otherwise it's a distraction imo.
    Good questions. She doesn't know there's legitimate interest, but there's an inkling. I'm going for the impression that I've given it some thought, but not *too* much thought, if you get my drift. Going to a cafe/wine bar, nice decor but nothing overly flash. May just try to nail the shirt/tie combo. Dark charcoal suit with light blue pinstripe, white with fine light blue check shirt, and baby pink paisley tie. Thoughts - any better colours for ties? Thanks for all the ideas, chaps.
     

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