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Feud with dad


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Sep 12, 2002
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I'm a college freshman, and I can already say these past few weeks have been some of the best in my life.  However, everything isn't great.  I'm a good student, and I can say that because I work hard.  I'm also a good athlete.  I have an opportunity to play Division 1 basketball.  My father is really pushing the issue.  I have big dreams, and I want to fulfill them so bad.  But basketball just isn't in the picture.  I know I could cut it, because I work hard on the court too.  My father doesn't understand my line of thinking.  He knows the importance of school, but he wants to see me on television playing ball.  I really want to tell him that basketball is over for me and it's time to move on to bigger things, but how do you tell your hero you don't see things his way?  I'm asking this because I've read some posts, and I've come to respect everyone's opinion on this forum.  Well, for the most part.  Thanks in advance.


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Asking because if you have then you're locked up until spring semester is over, unless you quit, then you have to pay back all the scholarship. Right away, the school will not let you attend class until you make good on all the debts.

If this is not the case and you're planning on walking-on, this opens a few doors.

Tell the old man. No, I don't want this for me. I'm sorry dad but that is it. Or tell him that you missed walk-on tryouts. This last one is bad; I hope you don't use it. Just be smart and rational, if that isn't working just get creative.

Remember the only person you ever have to be happy with in this life is you. Do what makes you happy. (within reason)

This is experience: I played college soccer, I was recruited by almost all the acc schools, and Penn state. But all I did in high school was play soccer. So I got to a shitty d2 school and soccer became the last thing on my list. I quit on September 26 last year and I have never looked back.

I hope I helped and I hope you get this all worked out.

Best wishes,



Sep 2, 2002
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I go to top 10 basketball school, and honestly, I would say to play. But only do it if you want. If you aren't happy, who cares if you can make the team or not. College ball is more serious and you have to really love it.

Love it the whole way or let it go. If you do it just to please him, then you are in it for the wrong reasons. Find something that you love to do and do it. Your happiness is what matters. Your school, your memories.

Think that in 10 years, do you want to remember your frat/bar stories,parties, girls or basketball games? Either one is great, but you need to decide what you want.


~~Do you mind me asking which school??

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