Father of the bride CA wedding

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  1. millevanille

    millevanille Active Member

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    My daughter is getting married in SoCal in late November. The groom and his party are all wearing tuxes (white jackets / black pants). The groom is supposedly wearing a top hat as well. On top of this, there is supposedly a 'Gatsby' theme happening.

    I am not amused…

    My preference would be to wear a light grey / silver two-piece suit with a white shirt and navy tie with brown shoes. Actually if I could get away with it there's a light grey herringbone sport coat I'd love to build an ensemble around but I'm concerned it won't be dressy enough.

    So it appears my options are:

    1. Go with the light grey suit as described above
    2. Get the light grey herringbone sport coat and perhaps wear with a charcoal pant / best combo
    3. Suck it up and wear some hideous tux I'll never wear again

    Very open to suggestions – thanks for the help, fellas!
     
  2. JubeiSpiegel

    JubeiSpiegel Senior member

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    I would differ to your daughter's requested attire here. If black tie is specified for all the guests, i would try to oblige.

    If there is no real attire directive, it would depend on time of day. If it's a day wedding go with your light grey suit, if an evening wedding, try to go with something darker like a charcoal or navy suit.

    My two cents...
     
  3. LA Guy

    LA Guy Opposite Santa Staff Member Admin Moderator

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    Or, you can get a full rig. Tux, shirt with studs, and either a cumberbund or a waistcoat. Bowtie. Patent leather shoes.

    I have two tuxes, neither of which are worn much, but they are unlikely to go out of style - both are fairly classic, shawl lapeled, numbers. You can go with something fairly standard that will probably run you $1000 or so for a good one, or somewhat lower if you are willing to compromise on the quality, and don't really care that much, but want something passable. You can always go up in price, of course.

    Hopefully, your daughter will only get married the once. May as well make it memorable, right? And the plus side is that you'll have a good tux to wear to less momentous occasions.
     
  4. Astaroth

    Astaroth Senior member

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    Surely its her opinion that you should be seeking?

    If the rest of the wedding party (not sure if the term translates) are all going to be in tropical day/outside formal wear (aka white tux) then you'll be a sore thumb in all the wedding photos with your charcoal sports coat.

    Personally I'd rather black tux to white as its more useful but given the two outfits are the same other than the jacket you could always buy a decent outfit in black/midnight and just hire a white jacket for the day
     
  5. millevanille

    millevanille Active Member

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    I appreciate the responses. Unfortunately there hasn't been that much organization behind this. I don't think my daughter has a real preference. The groom has chosen his white jacket / black pants combo for he and his wedding party.

    Sounds like I should look into some tux options. Appreciate the feedback.
     
  6. millevanille

    millevanille Active Member

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    As a follow-on, I've been looking for some tuxes (thinking single breasted notch or shawl in black or midnight) and I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for something preferably around $500. Been scouring eBay looking at RLPL / RLBL along with Isaia, Zegna, Brioni, etc. but they're a little out of my price range. Saw some cool looking Belvests, but not in my size. Any other suggestions? I may end up going the RLBL route, but interested to hear what you might suggest.
     
  7. JLibourel

    JLibourel Senior member

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    White tuxedo jackets in late November? How utterly inappropriate! I mean, even here in SoCal it can get pretty chilly and miserable 'round about then. If they have aspirations to formality, as it would seem, at least let them do it right.

    I don't believe that the father of the bride need be attired identically to the wedding party. However, since the white jacket tuxedoes seem to be big with your daughter and her fiance, isn't it probably most simple to pony up $150 (or whatever) to rent the damn thing, wear it to the wedding and then get on with your life?

    Unless you go to awards shows or civic banquets, it's pretty hard to justify the acquisition of a tuxedo here in Southern California, or so I have found, in the course of having lived here 67 out of my 74 years.
     
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  8. Astaroth

    Astaroth Senior member

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    A tux shouldnt have a notch lapel, if it does then its just a company doing a jacket on the cheap and reusing a lounge suit pattern for a tux. A tux should have peak lapels or shawl
     

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