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Falling in love - Charity Edition

xpress

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Am I a noble person?
Not really.

Have I ever volunteered?
Not willingly.

Has that all changed?
Absolutely.

A friend of mine wants to to volunteer with a knock off of Big Brothers, Big Sisters.
Him, not being a confident man, invited me to come along.

We met with the agent, who is an attractive brunette, who happens to be a year younger than me.
The conversation quickly altered course from the program, to our (lack of) mutual friends, where we went to school, etc. She was very flirtatious, and sent me an email 10 minutes after the meeting. It was like my amigo wasn't even in the room.

I immediately creeped her facebook, and judging by our lack of mutual friends, I have concluded she is a homebody. (Small city)
Her profile is hidden, and her display pic is small, but shes with a guy (I'm presuming/hoping a father-figure... Too hard to tell).

Her email was basically a "A pleasure meeting someone who has a big heart, and is willing to help out" all that crap...

Like many full-time volunteers at these places, she's trying to get a teaching job. I have loads of connections with principals in the area, and have succeeded in getting friends interviews in the past...

The question is - how do I respond to this email?


I can't volunteer with this program, because they require a 6 month commitment, and I'll be leaving in 4'ish months.
... And honestly, I don't know if I really want to.
 

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Send her a reply asking if she knows any other volunteer orgs that will take shorter commitments or don't require any, specifically any that she may be involved with as well. Then casually mention to her that you know many administrators in the school district that you could put her in touch with for her teaching job search. Finally you ask her to a get drinks to discuss further (assuming she drinks).
 

MrG

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Don't listen to w/a. The proper approach here is to tell her you'd like to recruit her for a new NPO you're starting - the "Xpress Foundation for the Donation of Teh Meat to Pretty Ladies."

She'll be putty in your hand.
 

munchausen

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This has all the makings of a mediocre sitcom episode.
 

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Don't listen to w/a. The proper approach here is to tell her you'd like to recruit her for a new NPO you're starting - the "Xpress Foundation for the Donation of Teh Meat to Pretty Ladies."
She'll be putty in your hand.


You are a genius. OP, please disregard my first reply.
 

Ambulance Chaser

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You made a big mistake by not asking this woman whether she was single when you talked to her in person. I suspect that the man in her FB profile is her SO, and what you interpreted as very flirtatious behavior was merely earnest recruiting for the charity. If you still want to give it the old college try, I suggest that you lead off your responsive e-mail by expressing your interest in her, and asking about her relationship status. If she's single and willing to go out with you, you're in and have topics for conversation. If she has a boyfriend, you respond by telling her about your connections and come off as a standup guy. Win-win.
 

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The question is - how do I respond to this email?
I can't volunteer with this program, because they require a 6 month commitment, and I'll be leaving in 4'ish months.
... And honestly, I don't know if I really want to.


tell her you enjoyed meeting with her and learning about the program. Unfortunately, after learning of the 6 month commitment requirement you cannot get involved because of professional conflicts that will prevent you from doing so. Then mention further how you enjoyed meeting her and then ask her out for drinks.

Worst case she'll say no. Best case she'll say yes. plus any rejection you get will be totally impersonal.
 
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