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Etiquette Question.

Maharlika

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I stayed at my friends parents house for the weekend. I gave my host a nice present as a token of my appreciation before I left. Is it necessary for me to send them a hand written 'thank you' note? Would the present suffice?
 

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I think you still need to send a note.
 

Edward Appleby

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I think the gift is perfectly goddamn sufficient. But my mom would tell me to write a note. So I usually end up deciding to write the note, but mostly because it's a really good way of making people remember and like you (particularly later middle aged or older folks) if you would enjoy receiving favors from them in the future.
 

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I would have given the gift at arrival and note at/after departure.
 

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In this day and age, few people write notes. Few people would notice you hadn't written a note. You'll be in no trouble for not writing a note.

Which is all the more reason to write a note. It takes 5 minutes and costs $3 for a card/note and $.42 to mail it, and you'll stand out like a champ. People will always remember your kindness, politesse, and classiness. It's so easy to really be thought of as a gentleman these days, because the bar is already set so low. It's like jumping over a crack in the pavement.

I keep an inexpensive box of notecards in my office desk just for this purpose. I can ram out a note, address it (with the help of the Interwebz), have a stamp on it, and drop it in the OGM box at work inside 3 minutes.
 

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Originally Posted by Hany
I would have given the gift at arrival and note at/after departure.

That's what I'd have done. Still sending a note, now can't hurt.
 

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Originally Posted by Hany
I would have given the gift at arrival and note at/after departure.

+1

I think giving a gift at departure, and then sending a note right after, while a nice gesture, is a bit much and *I'd* think you were a bit weird, albeit polite, fellow
 

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Always send a note! And don't forget to handwrite it!
 

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You should go back and wash their car over the weekend.
 

Maharlika

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The present came with a hand written note on it.
 

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I agree...send the note...It really doesn't take that much effort to do and means a lot to the person who receives it...especially now a days when so few people do it.
 

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