GreenFrog
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Yeah.. I hear you about keeping your professional life strictly separate from your personal life.. but the business world thrives on extroversion. You gotta at least act the part to get ahead.
I put on a face of being more outgoing with my colleagues than I truly am and it drains me so much.
The worst is my current project model where I'm at the client site in a cramped conference room with my manager, the VP, and EVP. I'm the ONLY junior guy and these guys are way older than me. I can't relate to **** in terms of what they talk about because of the vast generational difference. The toughest part, though, is being in the conference room with them all the time. I'm essentially 'on' all the time, as opposed to when I was still in Boston, working in a cube. I'd be able to surf the web sometimes or walk to other cubes and shoot the **** with other analysts. But here, I refrain from using my cell phone, I don't browse the web, etc. All for 'optics,' as my manager likes to call it. It's extremely stressful because you have to be wary of what's on your screen when your EVP walks into the conference room. Naturally, as the junior guy, I get the shittiest spot at the table where everyone can see what I'm doing. LOL.
But I still have a pretty good relationship with all of them. I'm a great listener and can ask intelligent questions to keep conversations going and that really helps them to trust me. My manager said I'm an extremely trustworthy person and that it's a valuable skill to have in the business world
He and I have a pretty good working relationship because we talk more than just business. I ask him about his wife, talk about politics, and yes, even religion. We debate and argue sometimes but in a friendly way. It's interesting because we're always on opposing spectrums so it's cool to hear his perspectives.
Blah blah blah, I digress.
Gettoasty, I guess what I'm trying to say is that you should try harder to relate to your colleagues. I find it extremely ironic that I, of all people, am telling you this, because it's something I struggle with as well, but I'm getting better.
Not much to add, good stuff being said. As far as corporate politics, IMO it really depends on the employer / boss and your colleagues. I work in a small 7 person firm and being an introvert myself, I can really careless about the gossiping, joking around that happens daily. It puts a bad mark on myself though as management thinks I am too quiet and they're always wondering what the hell am I thinking. I only communicate during projects, internal meetings and ask questions for clarification purposes. I am not a fan of divulging my personal life details and become a buddy buddies with my coworkers. It is like any relationships and I think sometimes there needs to be a line drawn.
In other words, I like to keep things professional at work whereas the atmosphere is more relaxed.
Can anyone confirm the CFA as mentioned earlier? Or can GreenFrog jump into PE, ER after consulting.
Yeah.. I hear you about keeping your professional life strictly separate from your personal life.. but the business world thrives on extroversion. You gotta at least act the part to get ahead.
I put on a face of being more outgoing with my colleagues than I truly am and it drains me so much.
The worst is my current project model where I'm at the client site in a cramped conference room with my manager, the VP, and EVP. I'm the ONLY junior guy and these guys are way older than me. I can't relate to **** in terms of what they talk about because of the vast generational difference. The toughest part, though, is being in the conference room with them all the time. I'm essentially 'on' all the time, as opposed to when I was still in Boston, working in a cube. I'd be able to surf the web sometimes or walk to other cubes and shoot the **** with other analysts. But here, I refrain from using my cell phone, I don't browse the web, etc. All for 'optics,' as my manager likes to call it. It's extremely stressful because you have to be wary of what's on your screen when your EVP walks into the conference room. Naturally, as the junior guy, I get the shittiest spot at the table where everyone can see what I'm doing. LOL.
But I still have a pretty good relationship with all of them. I'm a great listener and can ask intelligent questions to keep conversations going and that really helps them to trust me. My manager said I'm an extremely trustworthy person and that it's a valuable skill to have in the business world
He and I have a pretty good working relationship because we talk more than just business. I ask him about his wife, talk about politics, and yes, even religion. We debate and argue sometimes but in a friendly way. It's interesting because we're always on opposing spectrums so it's cool to hear his perspectives.
Blah blah blah, I digress.
Gettoasty, I guess what I'm trying to say is that you should try harder to relate to your colleagues. I find it extremely ironic that I, of all people, am telling you this, because it's something I struggle with as well, but I'm getting better.
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