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Just checking in on the Sierra Vests from the Woolrich order. Any update on those?
Thank you in advance. Cheers all!
And in the world of music... since I'm working at home most of the day, really good playlists have become pretty crucial.
I'm a big fan of "Synthwave," which is kind of neo-80's sounding music. If you saw "Drive" with Ryan Gosling, then think about that soundtrack.
Here's a good playlist for Spotify
And one for Apple Music
And here's a completely over-the-top claymation video for one of the best Synthwave songs. Intro is by John Carpenter!
its the worst year in all my 20 years of living in America,
And i can agree, marriage is difficult, having kids is difficult because you as a parent are responsibly for the life, leadership and wellbeing of these kids until they can manage on their own and thats a TALL ORDER.
I've never been suicidal, but trust me, this year has been a depressing year...........I have been fortunate to use my creativity and the time i have as a means of keeping me focused. I keep going because I am responsible too and for so many people that I cannot afford to let them down
One of the big issues that men face is that often when there are problems in marriage and family, there is very little support for the man. that must change, I think that high(est) rates of suicide is among divorced or divorcing middle aged men
This is how I get through my day. Trolling SF in the CEsspool. It's quite entertaining for me.3) I stay out of online arguments and debates. That **** saps my energy and sours my mood. The vitriol is stronger than ever now too. I just go on Facebook to answer customers and check in on the "UK Synthwave Group" for more new music.
This is how I get through my day. Trolling SF in the CEsspool. It's quite entertaining for me.
@Epaulet - I'm sorry to read about the loss of those two guys from your high school class. I lost a good friend from high school to suicide about a decade ago and it still hits hard.
Other than my high school friend, as a Marine I've had more than a few other acquaintances that I've lost as well and I'm in a couple veterans groups where we keep an eye out for each other, know some warning signs to look for, and don't hesitate to call on each other when needed (or when we think somebody needs to have us check in on them unsolicited).
This year has definitely been a sh!tty one. I have to admit that I have a pretty good life and have always been great at handling stress (or more accurately, just not letting things stress me out in the first place). I've seen enough truly horrible things in my life that it's worked well at putting things in perspective for me, but I can definitely empathize with those who are going through worse things than me.
I can go months without going out to a bar or seeing friends in person during the best of times so that hasn't been an issue to me. But I do value some alone time. Previously, I'd get that alone time by going to the gym or on my daily commute. That has all ended but since I no longer have that commute (gyms are open, but I'm not that brave and a next door neighbor is an MD and Epidemiologist and used to head up some global medical initiative for the Gates Foundation and I told him to let me know when he's ready to go back into our gym because then I'll feel safe to as well) I've been able to run a lot more than I had been. I've managed to lose close to 40 pounds and this morning I think I actually saw the hint of some abs poking through! But the biggest thing about the running is that it gives me an hour or two completely to myself every day. I'd probably have gone insane by now without all that alone time.
We've got two little girls at home (a preschooler and a 5th grader) and I am so grateful that I've been able to work from home since March and gotten to spend so much time with them. Whenever she starts to get down about not going to an office everyday anymore, I always tell my wife that she's welcome to go back to work fulltime and I'll be the one to stay home with the kids. Now I can see why she's never taken me up on that offer! Hopefully my employer allows us to keep working from home once this is all over. But yes, them asking for a snack every 5 minutes still gets old real quick, no matter how much you love them!
I'd say that the constant being at home has hit my 5th grader the hardest. She had about 3 weeks in October where they were back in school in person (half days) but that ended and now they're entirely virtual again. She misses seeing her friends immensely and while the occasional Zoom call with 3 or 4 of them is fun, it's a poor substitute for the real thing. Whenever she has an outburst about being lonely I remind myself that she went to bed on March 12th expecting the next day to be like any other but woke up on Friday the 13th to a world that was totally foreign to her and she's still adjusting.
I'm so sorry for your loss Eva.
I don't talk about it much publicly, but I had suicidal ideation from ~age 12-25ish. I am becoming increasingly convinced that one of the biggest drivers is social isolation. This has been an impossible year in a lot of ways. Please try to reach out to the people you care about.
Hey guys,
I need to talk about something really serious. I logged onto Facebook today and found out that two guys from my high school class have committed suicide in November.
Both of them had wives and more than one child under 10yo. It's really heartbreaking. I don't know the details of what drove them to that point, but it's clear that this second wave of COVID is particularly awful when combined with the typical seasonal winter depression.
This thread has been operating for over 10 years, and many of you have been here since the beginning. We're a community and a group of friends. And I want everyone to know that we're here for you if you need help.
This is a ******* difficult year. It's the most difficult one that I can remember. It makes 2001 and 2008 look like a cake walk. If you're feeling depressed, disconnected, and hopeless.. just know that you're not alone. In the dark days before this, we could at least reach out to our family and friends for personal support and connection. This pandemic has cruelly ripped that away, and video chats cannot replace what's lost. And it doesn't help that social media can compound this misery.
Life is difficult these days... being married is difficult and being a parent is difficult. If you don't already have support for your mental health, then it's hard to find a therapist and nearly impossible to see one in person. So I want to offer three things to anyone who needs them:
1) If you're feeling really despondent, there is a national suicide hotline that's available 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255. Call them. Don't wait until you're at the end of your rope. The earlier you speak to them, the faster that you can climb out of the hole.
2) I'm personally available to anyone on here who wants to talk. Email me at eva[@]epauletbrand.com and I'll call you. It doesn't matter if you're not a customer or if we've never spoken before. I'm not a therapist, but I'm a good listener and I've personally received a lot of therapy. I know what it's like to go through depression, and I have strategies that can help. A few years ago, one of the guys on this thread (also not a therapist) spent about 90 min on a phone call with me, and it was a huge help. I'd return that favor to anyone who needs it.
3) Please feel free to use this thread as your community space. For many of us, online communities are the only communities that we have. Facebook and Instagram can be a nightmare. If you want to post pics of your kids or your pets, or a log of the bike ride you did, or some nature photos that you took, or music that you're listening to.. please go ahead. I'll try to do this more myself. We've always had a strong positive vibe on this thread, and I'd love for it to be a place where you can feel free to stop by and talk to each other.
That's it. I'm grateful every day for the community here, and we're all going to get through this.