Engaged/married? What did you do for rings?

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  1. nightowl6261a

    nightowl6261a Senior member

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    I have to say, my wifes first ring was a 2.5 diamond, I actually picked it out because I? thought that was what she was worth and I could afford at the time....now well....after 22 years...she wears a 3 diamond 5.25 ring and she seems happy....maybe it is the ring but maybe it is me....whatever, but the ring will make a diff, spend 2.5 times your monthly income, that is the norm and you will be ok, and maybe get some extras too....haha
     


  2. Jen

    Jen Senior member

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    Also, women oftentimes aren't totally sure of what they want, either.

    Indeed, having never owned nor coveted a diamond, I was not at all certain about what I wanted in an engagement ring other than simplicity. I must say, though, that I am happy that it is a diamond in spite of myself (I was never going to support such an exploitive industry). Fundamentally, I want a diamond because in the U.S. a diamond on my left ring finger sends the message that I want sent--spoken for. If I lived in Europe, then the metal band alone would suffice, or in India, vermillion in the part of my hair.

    Every other diamond that I received for my wedding is in a safety-deposit box, but I wear my engagement ring every day. Its significance lies in what it symbolizes, and in this culture, for good or ill, I believe that this meaning is less clear when the diamond is replaced with an alternative stone.
     


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    Try this guy, I hear he's pretty good.

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  4. LabelKing

    LabelKing Senior member

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    To borrow from Coco Chanel, I find solitaire rings somewhat tawdry.
     


  5. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Senior member

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    Also, women oftentimes aren't totally sure of what they want, either.

    This is a good reason to have your gf either actually check the many options (cut of the stone, style of the setting, metal, etc etc) or have her come with you to look at different rings. My gf told me over and over that she wanted a rectangular cut stone (emerald, radiant, ascher, etc.) and then after seeing a round cut in a ring where the setting made it look slightly square-ish changed her mind and said that she liked that too.



    Fundamentally, I want a diamond because in the U.S. a diamond on my left ring finger sends the message that I want sent--spoken for. If I lived in Europe, then the metal band alone would suffice, or in India, vermillion in the part of my hair.

    And I think this is a great point too--it may be an expensive signal, but it is a HUGE signal. And that is important to some women (and more than a few men I'm sure). There was some confusion with my gf about whether she wanted a diamond center stone with sapphire baguettes or a sapphire with diamond baguettes. She stated unequivably that she wants a diamond in the center "so there is no confusion."
     


  6. oman

    oman Senior member

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    women: why not just TELL would-be suitors that you are spoken for, instead of going the round-about route of wearing an incredibly expensive stone?
     


  7. kabert

    kabert Senior member

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    My wife doesn't like big rings that stick out, like typical engagement rings. So instead of a ring, I got her a necklace with a single hanging diamond. It worked out great.

    Also, IMO, in matters of diamonds, size matters. Shoot for 1 carat or more. Also, if it comes down to larger size vs. slightly less than perfect in clarity or color, go for larger size. I think we've all encountered just-engaged women who seem just a little bit embarrassed by their dinky-diamond engagement ring. And, women do compare rings and definitely take note of each others' rings.
     


  8. kabert

    kabert Senior member

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    women: why not just TELL would-be suitors that you are spoken for, instead of going the round-about route of wearing an incredibly expensive stone?

    I think it's the other way around -- it's round-about to tell all walks of life for the next 40 years who may inquire that, yes, I'm married. If a ring is on the finger, they won't inquire. Of course, some married people who may want to "play the field" don't like to wear rings either.

    Plus, being married is an indicator (at least in many circles in the U.S.) of stability and normalcy. Thus, the ring on the finger is an instant, easy-to-identify indication of those qualities.
     


  9. whoopee

    whoopee Senior member

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    Keep in mind that carats are a measurement of weight, not size.
     


  10. Mr.Perdition

    Mr.Perdition Well-Known Member

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    I also recommend goodoldgold.com--I read through their tutorial after I looked at rings but before I bought. I was so thankful that I didn't buy anything before I read that because I would have gotten myself so screwed because my ignorance. I was then very dangerous on the jeweller's sales floor--they sure didn't like an informed customer!

    The reality of the situation is that I should have listened to what my wife originally wanted--she didn't want a diamond but I was so into the tradition of diamonds and that I "wanted it done right" that I fell into the diamond trap. Years later I read the one of the best diamond articles I have ever (or since) read:

    http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/198202/diamond

    Now I regret not listening to her and not just getting the sapphire...but she was still thrilled about the diamond!

    For me, though, I am not a jewelry guy and hated the thought of wearing a ring. Many women, my wife included, have a strong opinion that the husband wears a band no matter what the excuse. It took me a long time (and quite a bit of money) until I found a ring that I actually really, really like. I ordered it from here:

    www.mokume.com

    and chose the silver/palladium style. Going there now, I see that the price has essentially doubled. Bummer. It is very striking and I get a ton of comments about how beautiful and unusual it is. Kind of like me! Well, without the beautiful part, maybe [​IMG]
     


  11. Edward Appleby

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    women: why not just TELL would-be suitors that you are spoken for, instead of going the round-about route of wearing an incredibly expensive stone?
    Humans have been wearing precious metals and minerals for more than 5000 years. It seems to speak to something deep within us.
     


  12. TemiCastro

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    Got a titanium ring with 3 groves... Been married almost 4 years and I still get comments
     


  13. RJman

    RJman Posse Member Dubiously Honored

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    I want to see the engagement ring that Invicta Ice King must have.
     


  14. DMcG

    DMcG Senior member

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    I went to a jeweler that only does custom work when I got my fiancee's ring. For the proposal I just got a simple solitaire setting. Afterwards she was able to design a setting that she liked and have the stone transferred over to the new setting.
     


  15. dkzzzz

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    My ex-GF was very upset when one of my friends bought BMW M-3 instead of a 50K diamond ring for his fiancÃ[​IMG]e.
    -"How could he do such a stupid thing? The ring is investment (lol-sure it is) , but the car is just a stupid waste of money"...

    Needless to say I ran from that money-trap.

    Most women view engagement as a rise of their social status. Most of them consider biggest ring in order to "win" in idiotic competition with their girlfriends.
    Most women will appraise the ring you gave them to gauge the amount you spent on it, as if it reflects the seriousness of your feelings (more like financial commitment).

    I am happy to say that my girl only decided to get a ring as a repellent from single guys. Ring on your finger actually works as repellent only in US. [​IMG]

    She hates diamonds and thinks that they are idiotic shiny objects for certain types.
     


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