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Elevator Exit Etiquette

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After a silent elevator ride this morning, a gentleman at the front of the elevator turned around before exiting and said "Have a good day" to me and the woman remaining. Then, imitating his politeness, the woman did the said the same thing to me as she left. We are in a 27-story building and I don't recognize these people.

This is the second well-dressed Asian man to exit the elevator with a "Have a good day" in the last week, a friendly gesture that I am considering adopting. Do you or does anyone in your building address your elevator travel mates upon exit?
 

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Only if they grabbed my junk!
 

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you work in the same building as Foo
 

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FWIW, I don't think I have personal space issues and I think that talking to people on the elevator beyond natural conversations that occur is not really necessary, because lifts move far too quickly to get anything good in and so it is just as the same as any fast-moving traffic turnstile where moving and not speaking is the norm. Perhaps when waiting for the lift, but when on, stay quiet and don't stare too much, don't fart, hit the 'close doors' button when everybody for a certain floor is certain to be off, and keep moving. I live in a 14 story building (regular here) that is in front of a women's university, so there are quite a few 18-22 year old girls in my building, almost half of the occupancy perhaps. It's pretty nice odds; it boils down realisitically to like maybe 5 or 6 girls on my elevator (there are separate odd/even floor elevators) that I see from time to time and wouldn't mind talking to, but the shackles....
but yeah, if it were an office building, you get that false sense of security since you get to go home everyday, but an elevator isn't the best place to impress the world with your gentleness or intriguing conversation, IMO. Waiting room, waiting for elevator, a lot of better places exist.
 

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It is IMO good manners to greet people getting in and out of the elevator.
 

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also, disclaimer: I jsut watched 'Devil' last night
 

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Originally Posted by TheD0n
After a silent elevator ride this morning, a gentleman at the front of the elevator turned around before exiting and said "Have a good day" to me and the woman remaining. Then, imitating his politeness, the woman did the said the same thing to me as she left. We are in a 27-story building and I don't recognize these people.

This is the second well-dressed Asian man to exit the elevator with a "Have a good day" in the last week, a friendly gesture that I am considering adopting. Do you or does anyone in your building address your elevator travel mates upon exit?


In Puerto Rico, that is considered proper etiquette, good manners, a gesture of chivalry. Some people have lost it and I consider it rude not to at least acknowledge the presence of the other person, especially if there is only one other person in the elevator and/or if you have previously seen that person. There is this guy that I see frequently in my office's building that in 3 years I've been working here has never even acknowledged my presence in the elevator. Of course, I said "have a good day" the first time. Since he never responded, I will never say it again.
 

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i don't really speak during the ride or after, whatever. not my cup of tea.

i just ask "which floor?" when someone enters if i'm standing there so they don't have to do that uncomfortable reach-across-me-to-hit-their-button thing. lol. then when the door opens and we're both getting out i'll say "after you"
 

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Originally Posted by impolyt_one
FWIW, I don't think I have personal space issues and I think that talking to people on the elevator beyond natural conversations that occur is not really necessary, because lifts move far too quickly to get anything good in and so it is just as the same as any fast-moving traffic turnstile where moving and not speaking is the norm. Perhaps when waiting for the lift, but when on, stay quiet and don't stare too much, don't fart, hit the 'close doors' button when everybody for a certain floor is certain to be off, and keep moving.

I live in a 14 story building (regular here) that is in front of a women's university, so there are quite a few 18-22 year old girls in my building, almost half of the occupancy perhaps. It's pretty nice odds; it boils down realisitically to like maybe 5 or 6 girls on my elevator (there are separate odd/even floor elevators) that I see from time to time and wouldn't mind talking to, but the shackles....
but yeah, if it were an office building, you get that false sense of security since you get to go home everyday, but an elevator isn't the best place to impress the world with your gentleness or intriguing conversation, IMO. Waiting room, waiting for elevator, a lot of better places exist.


It is not necessary to initiate a conversation in the elevator. We're talking about saying "Have a good day", when entering or exiting an elevator. It is simply good manners. Nevertheless, it may be a cultural and/or personal space thing. As I said previously, here in PR, it is considered good manners.
 

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Originally Posted by D Yizz
It is not necessary to initiate a conversation in the elevator. We're talking about saying "Have a good day", when entering or exiting an elevator. It is simply good manners. Nevertheless, it may be a cultural and/or personal space thing. As I said previously, here in PR, it is considered good manners.

are you seriously trying to talk good manners to a guy who's screen name is "impolyt_one?"
 

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Originally Posted by Douglas
are you seriously trying to talk good manners to a guy who's screen name is "impolyt_one?"

lol!!! Nah, I'm just saying how we consider the matter over here. What he does is his problem.
 

impolyt_one

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fresh swagger > manners
 

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Originally Posted by TheD0n
After a silent elevator ride this morning, a gentleman at the front of the elevator turned around before exiting and said "Have a good day" to me and the woman remaining. Then, imitating his politeness, the woman did the said the same thing to me as she left. We are in a 27-story building and I don't recognize these people.

This is the second well-dressed Asian man to exit the elevator with a "Have a good day" in the last week, a friendly gesture that I am considering adopting. Do you or does anyone in your building address your elevator travel mates upon exit?


Originally Posted by ter1413
Only if they grabbed my junk!

lol. typical sf thread progres.

seriously, i wish there was more of that kind of courtesy around where i live and work. i think doing that in an elevator is a bit too unnecessary but i do wish there was more tradition around here.
everyone here are just your typical late 20s-early 40s middle rung yuppy types who are usually content in just displaying their smugness and passive aggressiveness when convenienced for them.
i likewise follow them and in turn makes me that small. i wish i hung out with a better crowd as im more reactive than proactive in these social things
 

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Everyone always enters and then turn to face the door. I prefer to step in and face everyone else, taking up the central position, and nod and smile at people. It freaks some people out and I enjoy it.
 

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When I enter I may say hello but when I leave I most definite will say "Have a good one." or "Take care". Never am I bothered if someone does or does not reply. I say a similar thing to customers when at work while they are leaving and rarely do I get a reply so it is just something that I adopted.
 

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