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Double dating

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by Ambulance Chaser, Mar 7, 2005.

  1. Wedge

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    I vote to take turns picking up the check since most of my friends live out of town so if we are visiting they pick up the check and if they are visiting we pick up the check.

    Usually it is a fight to pay...it is nice to have good friends.
     
  2. VKK3450

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    Kinda like having a tipping formula that starts with 15% and adding or subtracting based on certain events and guidelines??? Â Yeah, I agree that it seems a quite a bit precise and cheap... If it's a couple of drinks in a bar, then one of us usually just picks it up and next time someone else will. Â Meals, usually just split the check... Â If I had the lobster or a lot more whiskey, then I'll throw in a few more bucks. Â No biggie. Â K (Sorry, couldn't help pointing it out...)
     
  3. globetrotter

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    one thing that pisses me off is that when my wife and her friends go out, they have sort of adopted a system where they pay according to the abilities of their husbands. so myself and the doctor in the group seem to treat all of the other women an awful lot.
     
  4. Fabienne

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    My, how does something like that ever get started?
     
  5. globetrotter

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    good question - but one of the girls got married last summer, and one of the friends (the doctors wife) ended up stuck with the bar tab of the bachlorette party.

    I think that some of the girls just think that if you are comfortable then you shouldn't mind puting in for those who are less so, although it is a matter of priorities. I am sure that each of those ladies that let the bill lie there and wouldn't think of picking it up, have a bigger TV than we do.
     
  6. Wedge

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    Globetrotter that sounds a lot like communism to me. I wish I could remember where I read something about that where 10 guys would eat dinner and they would pay a percentage that they could afford. In the end the 2 richest guys ended up leaving and the other 8 couldn't afford to go out to eat anymore...

    We have picked up the tab for friends before that were hurting for cash...and just pretended that it was a late birthday present or something like that.

    To be EXPECTED to pay is ridiculous.
     
  7. Fabienne

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    Manners are lost on some people. Strange group dynamics. If they can't afford their evening out, they should think twice before indulging.
     
  8. drizzt3117

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    I wasn't suggesting that they go total up what everyone ordered at the end of the meal, but simply split the bill in half and hand one to each party, but I imagine that one could have separate checks set up in the manner above, it just seems a little bit precise, and cheap IMO.
    Kinda like having a tipping formula that starts with 15% and adding or subtracting based on certain events and guidelines??? Yeah, I agree that it seems a quite a bit precise and cheap... If it's a couple of drinks in a bar, then one of us usually just picks it up and next time someone else will. Meals, usually just split the check... If I had the lobster or a lot more whiskey, then I'll throw in a few more bucks. No biggie. K (Sorry, couldn't help pointing it out...)
    Point taken, but I think there's a distinct difference, in the case of a split bill, I am dining with someone that I'm presumably friends with and will see again on a regular basis. If there are huge discrepancies in the paid versus owed amount, it can be settled later, while in the case of a gratuity, 99% of the time, it is a one time transaction. If there's a pattern of inequity in the first situation, then I will address it.
     
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    Agreed for the most part... [​IMG]
     
  10. VKK3450

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    It's some analogy to the tax system. I remember reading it a while ago, but can't find it now. K
     
  11. PeterMetro

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    Do you submit your W2? How could they possibly know what you all make?
     
  12. globetrotter

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    (globetrotter @ Mar. 10 2005,07:24) one thing that pisses me off is that when my wife and her friends go out, they have sort of adopted a system where they pay according to the abilities of their husbands. so myself and the doctor in the group seem to treat all of the other women an awful lot.
    Do you submit your W2? Â How could they possibly know what you all make?
    well, one of the husbands works nights in a hog de-assembly plant, one is an emergency medical technitian, one is a full partner in radiologist practice and I am a VP international Sales at a high tech company. there is an assumtion involved, but I am not sure that it is a false assumption. Although, frankly, there are also a few who are very dificult to place - an account manager for a large consumer goods company, a chemist, a bookeeper for the IRS..... I guess it boils down to who is more open and who is more careful with their money.
     
  13. Carlo

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    Depends on who with....

    With good friends we usually fight for it and take turns.

    With someone I don't know as well I generally stick my credit card in the thing and hand it to the other guy and say 'wanna just split it'.

    With Jill's dad he'll always fight me for the check and I always whisper to the waitress "I'll tip better" and since he refuses to wear a hearing aid he always loses the war and has no idea why.
     
  14. ernest

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    I pay for what i ate.
    My girl pays for what she ate.

    The 2 others do what they want to.
     
  15. LA Guy

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    It seems to be a very common practice in Europe for the couple to split the bill in the way ernest describes.

    I know very few North American friends who do not pay for the girl. Personally, I always pay for my fiancee (and did so for dates and girlfriends before her), unless it is obviously a special treat (a birthday or something.) Of course, on a first or second date, especially, a woman is generally expected to put up some sort of token resistance.

    Among friends, usually the bill is split equally among all parties (you still get to pay for your girl.) Lesson: order the lobster and the best wine occasionally, and desert if everyone else is doing so.
     
  16. fkl118

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    Proper etiquette would say that the bill is split evenly among the four (or more) people. But, my wife and I occasionally go out with another couple and the other fellow would always order the most expensive items on the menu and still expect to evenly split the bill. [​IMG] It's driven me nuts, so I try to avoid dinners with them now.
     
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    I've never heard such a thing from any authority on proper etiquette. If you'd kindly cite a source I would appreciate it.
     
  19. ernest

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    Why are you so stingy? If you like your friends you don't even look at the prices. Your comment makes me think that you only split because your weak personality obliges you to follow a social rule and because you are afraid to express yourself for fear of not beeing loved by people. If you want to split, don't calculate who ate what. Nobody prevent you from eating something more exepensive than the cheapest dish.
     
  20. ernest

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    Your girl is homeless? Non capable to make her own money?
     

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