Double dating

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  1. Ambulance Chaser

    Ambulance Chaser Senior member

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    Let's say you and your SO are having dinner at a nice restaurant with another couple.  The check comes.  You and the other guy start looking at each other.  How do you pay the check?

    BTW, this was a running gag on Season 3 of "Curb Your Enthusiasm."  I'm not sure if that means it is a trivial issue or not . . .
     


  2. topcatny

    topcatny Senior member

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    We do this often with our friends. We just split the bill evenly. If the other couple had more expensive meals, oh well. The next time around it will probably work out to our benefit.
     


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    I agree, split and make up differences another time, I used to pick up, and then next time was on the other couple, and it always seemed they were always busy when it came time for their turn to pick up the bill, or, they always want to go for mexican. SPLIT.
     


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    I figure splitting evenly is pretty fair, and that's what we usually do.
     


  5. Kai

    Kai Senior member

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    I typically pay for everyone, with the assumption that the other couple will pay next time we go out.

    Too much logistics to worry about when trying to split the bill. Paying with cash, vs card, how much to tip, etc.

    It's easier for me to have one couple just pay the whole thing.
     


  6. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    agree with Kai
     


  7. Bradford

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    Wait - we are missing an option here...

    You ignore the check until the other couple gets uncomfortable and reaches for their wallet - at which point you barely acknowledge their generosity. Then when going for after dinner drinks, you pick up the first round by saying, "you got dinner, let me get this" and then act like that makes it even although in reality, you have paid maybe $20 for a round of drinks while the other guy paid nearly $200 or more for dinner.

    This is not me - but I've gone out with these people before and somehow I always seem to be the one who gets the stuck with the dinner check.

    Bradford
     


  8. craig

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    The easiest way for me has always been to agree upon earlier with my friend that one person will pay and we will settle up later. To much hassel to split up the check. This assumes that the guy is a friend. Always seems to work for me.
     


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    I say split the check. Otherwise, you might pay and then discover there is no "next" time. [​IMG]
     


  10. philosophe

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    We always split the check in half. It's the easiest--no math at the table, no wondering about the next dinner, etc.
     


  11. jerrysfriend

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    I am in favor of an even split, but there can be problems.
    My wife and I used to eat out regularly with another couple, a multi-millionaire doctor and his wife. I am not wealthy.
    We always split but there were a few episodes; one place we often went to took cash only; the bill would come and I put down 1/2 and approximately a 20% tip. He always put down 1/2 plus $1 (he could have been leaving this little at other places, but I had never looked at what he was writing on the credit card receipt). A couple of times, when we went to places where he knew I got 20% off, due to belonging to a dining plan, he would ask me to pay it all and said that he would later pay me back, in cash, his 1/2, less 20%. He always "forgot" however.
    Then, the couple began having marital problems. They would still sometimes "date" with us but we knew they were living separately. While they were in that status, the wife began to order two appetizers and one main course. She would eat both appetizers, take one bite of the main course and ask the waiters to box up the left-overs for her to eat later. Although everyone one else only had one appetizer, I still paid 1/2.
    They are back together now, but have moved away. It is a bit of a relief. I was not really upset about being taken advantage of as it did not amount to a great deal; it was more of being a bit surprised in view of his great wealth and wondering why he felt he needed to take slight advantage of a friend.
     


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    I don't think it's that tough, all you have to do is tell the restaurant that you want the bill split in two, and they will bring you two separate bills, not that difficult to keep track of IMO.
     


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    Absolutely. That way, if I want to order lobster as an appetizer, and everyone else is having a salad, I don't feel bad. [​IMG]
     


  14. uriahheep

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    There are some restaurants which have a one-check-per-table policy.
     


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    drizzt3117 Senior member

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    I don't think it's that tough, all you have to do is tell the restaurant that you want the bill split in two, and they will bring you two separate bills, not that difficult to keep track of IMO.
    There are some restaurants which have a one-check-per-table policy.
    None I've been to... generally any upscale restaurant will fall over to take care of their customers.
     


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