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Doing things alone

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by blank, Mar 14, 2008.

  1. HomerJ

    HomerJ Senior member

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    I enjoy my own company but I wouldn't want to go to an amusement park, casino, sporting event, or comedy show alone. Those are exciting activities and having friends around adds to the energy.

    More reflective activities can be better by oneself. I sometimes feel rushed if I go to a museum or art gallery with other people.
     
  2. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    . Both at work, due to my position, and socially, due to my gregarious nature, I tend to be if not the center of attention, at least a focus of attention. I am constantly surrounded by people that desire a piece of my energy. So when I get the chance to do something alone, I simply love it.


    that is very much my feeling/situation.
     
  3. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

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    I love spending time by myself. Many of my acquaintances seem worried that I am alone and equate that with "lonely". The two concepts are completely different in my experience.

    I will not however, (like Nantucket) go to a theater alone; it just conjures visions of dirty old men bashing their birds in the x-rated theaters of my youth.
     
  4. Jared

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    But as a single guy in the city, I don't know if that's a good idea -- and yet, I don't know why.
    I don't know if it's your sort of thing, and I don't know how well it would work in New York, but being out and alone during the day gives you the opportunity to engage women who are also out and alone.
     
  5. SoCal2NYC

    SoCal2NYC Senior member

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    I do lots of stuff alone. Movies, dinner, museums, shopping, Central Park, walking around.
     
  6. ts4them

    ts4them Senior member

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    I do pretty much everything alone. All of my good friends moved far away years ago, and I don't really feel like making new ones. I'd rather hang out with my dog, she doesn't disappoint or annoy me.

    As far as hunting for great burgers in NYC- that's something I've enjoyed for the past couple of years. You absolutely HAVE to try Ryan's pub in the e.v.- they have a burger that is my favorite, and the fries are great too. The amazing thing is that its only $5! I recently tried Peter Luger's burger, which I think is overrated, but definitely worth trying- most people love it. Now I have to go to the Burger Joint.
     
  7. thomask

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    going to the movies alone suck. Don't you guy have a need to vent about a movie after you watch it? lol
     
  8. JayJay

    JayJay Senior member

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    going to the movies alone suck. Don't you guy have a need to vent about a movie after you watch it? lol
    Not at all. In fact, I'm usually annoyed by someone's needless commentary about what we just saw.
     
  9. West24

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    i hate doing things alone. i pretty much never go out alone. ive never gone to a movie alone, club, resteraunt etc. i think part of the experience is being able to share it with someone. i could never travel alone. i would much rather have a good friend with me. it would be that much more fun, and something we could talk and laugh about for the rest of our lives.
     
  10. Piobaire

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    I am taking Thursday and Friday off work this week as I need a four-dayer to unwind a bit. My wife is only taking Friday off, so this leaves me Thursday to myself. I already plan to visit the local Off-5th, have lunch reservations at a great place to sit and enjoy the scenery, and intend to go put my rental wine cellar in some order, in preparation for the delivery of our new Vinotemp in the next month or so. After I finish ordering the cellar a bit, I will undoubtedly pop a bottle at the attached bistro and enjoy it solo.
     
  11. itskub

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    I work at a decent restaurant / bar in soho. Yea... most of us from time to time get a bit lonely, and go to a cafe with a book to read for the hell of it, which is fine.

    What bothers me about some of these people that are out alone are the ones trying to appear that they're not alone. It's not uncommon to have 3 or 4 or 5 people sitting at this nice cozy bar, staring down at their cell phones, taking a sip, check phone, sip, phone.. etc. I mean wouldnt it be a bit more enjoyable looking around and making small talk. (I hate small talk, but still)
     
  12. contactme_11

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    going to the movies alone suck.

    very true, and this is why we have women
     
  13. Ludeykrus

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    I'm very social and do well around groups and people, which makes people think something's terribly wrong when I do stuff alone.

    I am very much a loner by nature. I prefer my own company to anyone else's. I really enjoy going to a quieter bar or pub and reading a book, the paper, or watching the game. I love hitting up art galleries, museums, 'proper' concerts, and shows alone. I love hiking and enjoying nature alone, and I love travelling alone......God, do I love travelling alone. My favorite method of spending time is to jump on my motorcycle and hit the road, just pound out hundreds of miles and see anywhere I've never been before.

    I also believe that people that cannot enjoy things alone have issues with insecurity. Though I don't mind going to the theater alone earlier in the day, there's something odd to me about going on a weekend night to see a movie by yourself.....
     
  14. iridium7777

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    going to the movies alone suck. Don't you guy have a need to vent about a movie after you watch it? lol

    i don't know why, but to me, the idea of going to a movie alone is the most horrifying thing one can do.
     
  15. alan

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    I always liked being alone more, but there arent many things that i actually go for alone.

    I might go grab a coffee during the day by myself, but ive never went out to a restaurant alone, for example. Or a bar or club. I have watched a movie alone once.

    I think with bars and clubs its pretty much a thing where you go to meet women, and although ive seen others do it, i couldnt bring myself to go somewhere alone where all others are in groups and feel confident. I dont care that much about others opinions generally but in that setting itd be awkward.

    With the exception of a couple of close friends, only one around here now, most of the time i just want the people i hang out with to sit there and shut up lol.
    As others said, making small talk with a person with whom you dont have a deep relationship with is incredibly annoying.

    Bars where you could go just for a drink and where you might find others alone arent that common here also.
     
  16. j

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    You could try making not-small talk with people you don't know. People seem to really appreciate that, and if it creeps them out, they probably wouldn't have been worth the small talk anyway.
     
  17. Bouji

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    I thoroughly enjoy lunch and breakfast in a restaurant alone, not so much dinner.
    It gives one a chance to enjoy the food, and most of the time the staff give you more attentive service, because they think you are a critic.
     
  18. alan

    alan Senior member

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    You could try making not-small talk with people you don't know. People seem to really appreciate that, and if it creeps them out, they probably wouldn't have been worth the small talk anyway.

    It might just be me. I have wide circles of friends but ive formed very little deep relationships over the years. I still have the same couple of close friends ive had since i was like 10, and cant say i ever had a very serious gf either.

    But i cant say ive intentionally fought it or shied away from it, when it comes to friendship (maybe i did in my romantic relationships).

    I dont knwo if its weird but i feel like i think too much usually, i always have thoughts running through my mind, so im always communicating with myself, in a way. And feel very little urge to do so with others.
     
  19. LA Guy

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    I love doing things alone. I never go to the movies, period, so that is not an issue for me. Both at work, due to my position, and socially, due to my gregarious nature, I tend to be if not the center of attention, at least a focus of attention. I am constantly surrounded by people that desire a piece of my energy. So when I get the chance to do something alone, I simply love it. One of the nicest lunches I had last year, was a lunch I had alone.

    Except for the movie part, I agree with everything here, and now with a nice year old and a seven month old at home, I value my alone time even more. I find that my alone time really allows me to recharge.

    In a "dream alone date", I work out in a perfectly still gym, with just sportscenter to keep me company, grab a bite and a coffee, shop alone in some great places for several hours, take an hour at lunch with a good glass of wine, and then watch a late matinee in an empty place. Then I read a book with dinner.

    In a dream, I even get to turn off my cellphone, and when I turn it back on at the end of the day, there are no calls that need to be returned, just some close friends leaving messages wishing me a nice day.
     
  20. sam

    sam Senior member

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    I'm quite the gadabout and go out/do something practically every night of the week. I do some of these things alone just because of the prohibitive organizational effort involved in getting people to meet up. Even when hitting up bars or clubs, I'll just tell friends where I'm gonna be. If they show up, cool. If not, it's an opportunity to meet new people.

    I've found this method allows me to do things I'm interested in all the while being completely stress-free. Highly recommended.
     

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