Does porn ruin your sex life?

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  1. breakfasteatre

    breakfasteatre Senior member

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    Been in a relationship for 5 years, and personally ive had no sex drive for most of it

    i find myself looking at porn generally not because i want to beat off, but more because im bored.

    but i check out porn quite a bit in my spare time on the computer.

    what are your thoughts?
     


  2. APK

    APK Senior member

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    Too much of it could subconsciously increase your dissatisfaction with your sex life if you're in a committed relationship. You run the risk of bedroom stagnation in such relationships even without outside influences. The fantasy experience most porn grants access can accentuate the monotony that characterizes the sex lives of long-time partners.

    Personally, my sex life has been more fulfilling when the porn viewing is limited or even eliminated (usually only happens at the beginning of the relationship when things are still fresh).

    Also, haven't you voiced a concern with your girlfriend's appearance/weight before? That's going to play a role in how frisky you're feeling.
     


  3. breakfasteatre

    breakfasteatre Senior member

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    Also, haven't you voiced a concern with your girlfriend's appearance/weight before? That's going to play a role in how frisky you're feeling.

    I have, didnt go too well

    but she makes an effort now. She truly is beautiful and im a lucky guy to have such an attractive girlfriend.
    She looks better than ever now, but my weiner stays stagnant
     


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    thekunk07 Senior member

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    porn just makes you expect that a lot of abnormal stuff should be par for the course
     


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    musicguy Senior member

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    Been in a relationship for 5 years, and personally ive had no sex drive for most of it i find myself looking at porn generally not because i want to beat off, but more because im bored. but i check out porn quite a bit in my spare time on the computer. what are your thoughts?
    Low testosterone levels? Too much masturbating? Bored with your girl?
     


  6. RedScarf7

    RedScarf7 Senior member

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    Start watching porn with your gf, imo.
     


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    willpower Senior member

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    Sex is the barometer in a relationship. Are you sure this relationship hasn't run it's course?
     


  8. breakfasteatre

    breakfasteatre Senior member

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    if im having any sort of doubts at this stage, would that be a pretty good indication that things are through?
     


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    dexterhaven Senior member

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    Lord who knows. As for the porn, "ruins" is probably too strong a word, but it does take something away from it. But I'm not gonna stop watching it so I try not to worry about it.
     


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    APK Senior member

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    porn just makes you expect that a lot of abnormal stuff should be par for the course
    This is what I was trying to say in my first post. Some girls ARE prudes, but there are also the ones who do the standard stuff, which is boring, tame shit by porn standards.
     


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    tomgirl Senior member

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    I try to use porn to better my sex life, but then again I'm not a total prude and know that imagination and reality are different. [​IMG]
     


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    Eason Bicurious Racist

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    Start watching porn with your gf, imo.

    This is just awkward, don't do it.
     


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    cptjeff Senior member

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    [​IMG] It should be noted that I really can't speak to the actual question, as I don't have all that much of a sex life at the moment. [​IMG]
     


  14. breakfasteatre

    breakfasteatre Senior member

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    This is just awkward, don't do it.

    'this is my favorite site, this is my favorite video' rofl
     


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    This is just awkward, don't do it.

    Eg, it can work under certain circumstances. My wife likes to watch porn with me.
     


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