So I recently got a new hairdresser and I've been to her a couple times so far. I've been going to this place for 2 years and so i've seen her a lot with other customers and while she's friendly and talkative, I seem to get a lot more out of her than others do. The conversation is always great, and I basically keep her laughing throughout the whole appointment. She's the only hairdresser I've ever had that keeps me so distracted that I pay zero attention to what's being done to my hair. She's used to model at a pretty high level, is absolutely gorgeous, and our personalities are seemingly a perfect match. We're both a little twisted and we like a lot of the same things. I'm conservative and she's liberal but that's fine because we antagonize each other in a playful way. I've been dating lots of girls over the past year and a half and I've never had this sort of chemistry with a girl. Everything clicks, and there's never a dead-spot in conversation. On my last appointment I suggested that she come dancing with me. At first she was like "yaaaaaaa right!" because she doesn't dance at all, least of all to salsa. I reassured her that I suck too so she won't be alone in making a fool of herself and also that when it came down to it, nobody really cared how good or bad anyone else was. With a little convincing (it was very easy) I got her to agree to a private couples lessons after which we'll go to a club. Here's the catch. I know another one of her customers (a gay man), and he says she's a lesbian. However, she has fooled around with guys (although not often), so maybe she's bi but with a definite preference for women... From my old hairdresser I know that every guy whose hair she cuts develops a crush on her (which is really no surprise), but that she doesn't go out with them. On my first appointment we were talking about dating co-workers and she said that she did that once and would never date anyone from work again, but didn't specify if that included customers as well. She hasn't made any indication to me that she's gay, and she does seem to genuinely like me. The last time i was there I was getting tons of compliments from her and when she realized she had an appointment with me the other day her eyes lit up... I've been sworn to secrecy by the only two guys that could have told me she's gay so I'm sure it would wierd her out if I came straight-out and asked, plus they'd both be upset with me. I know overly clingy guys are something that have annoyed her in the past and I'd hate for her to think that i've been strategizing this whole thing. I would love to have a romantic relationship with this girl but this is one of the few girls that I'd be just as happy to be friends with b/c I have that much fun with her. Another girl told me that private dance classes aren't a date. I'm going in to this with no expectation b/c I know the odds are stacked against me given her recent sexual history, however I'm cautiously optimistic. She's no newbie to dating and there's no way that she could be unaware of her effect on men. She has to realize that I think she's attractive (I've told her in various ways on more than one occasion) and that I might potentially think this is a date. She doesn't know that I know she's been dating women exclusively for a couple of years. I once gave her the opportunity to come-out with it when I was telling her a funny story about how her other customer (the gay man) accidentally came out to me but she never provided any indication that she was also gay. How would you guys handle this?