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Do you forgive people that have wronged you?

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by olualbert, Mar 31, 2010.

  1. ConcernedParent

    ConcernedParent Senior member

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    When you wrong as many people as I do, you would have to be a hypocrite to not be a very forgiving person.

    Those that I wrong I tend not to care whether or not they forgive me.
     
  2. Master-Classter

    Master-Classter Senior member

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    I have always believed "forgive, but never forget". Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it.

    That being said, from a purely evolutionary point of view, isn't it actually more useful to NOT forgive? if you don't forgive someone, essentially you will either not help that person or go out of your way to harm them in some way, which will basically "punish" them for their actions, both teaching them a lesson and putting them at a disadvantage which will limit their ability to conitnue doing that thing or everything in general, making them less "genetically fit". Ie overall they're worse off because they did something bad, you punished them somehow, and now they are in a worse off position so less likely to have a successful life.
     
  3. InPa

    InPa Well-Known Member

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    Sad to say but although I don't wish anything negative toward a person who's wronged me I can't seem to ever forget or ultimately ever forgive. It takes a lot for me to feel that wronged though...
     
  4. westinghouse

    westinghouse Senior member

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    Not forgiving someone is the same as killing that person. Forgiving someone is the same as forgiving yourself. Do the math.
     
  5. johnspells

    johnspells New Member

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    I never balm any one for anything. I think that if any how the person is doing something wrong with me then I just leave it on god and if I am right that god will punish them. We are not here to make some one realise that you did wrong or even right. It is not my duty. I never take any step for them and waste my time on them.
     
  6. Hombre Secreto

    Hombre Secreto Senior member

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    I always forgive... after payback of course. [​IMG]
     
  7. StephenHero

    StephenHero Senior member

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    Life is too short to not have a nemesis.
     
  8. Lone Wolf

    Lone Wolf Senior member

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    I read somewhere that holding a grudge is like taking poison and waiting for the other guy to die.

    That said, I tend to be up in my own head too much generally and it's difficult for me to let some things go. I recognize that there's little to be gained by dwelling on anything overly much but thought patterns are tough to change.

    I do learn from every wrong, however. As GW Bush brilliantly said, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice....uh, uh....won't get fooled again".
     
  9. EMY

    EMY Senior member

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    For non-school related stuff-yes
    For school/grades related stuff-rarely. most people are ruthless and do whatever it takes to beat you.
     
  10. binge

    binge Senior member

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    Forget about forgiving and get the hell outta town.
     
  11. nero

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    I do forgive as I have in the past did people wrong unintentionally. As long as the person did not intentionally wrong me.
     
  12. dtmt

    dtmt Senior member

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    Life is too short to not have a nemesis.
    [​IMG] do you also feel like you are the only one left to fight for all that is good and pure and gets you smashed for under a fiver?
     
  13. outbrk

    outbrk Member

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    yes, after time
     
  14. legit

    legit Well-Known Member

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    This entirely is situational.

    In most cases yes, I would forgive, but there are certain situations where this wouldn't happen.
     
  15. thenanyu

    thenanyu Senior member

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    Life is too short to not have a nemesis.
    Life is too short to not have a variety of Nemeses in different domains.
     

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