Do you forgive people that have wronged you?

[olualbert]

When I was growing up, I was always told by my parent to forgive: let it go, forgive and forget.... and so on. My intellectual curiosity, however, jump-started recently when someone I cared about pointed my attention to it. So, I am asking folks in the forum, do you forgive people that have wronged you? Do you understand what forgiveness is? If so, share your opinion or thoughts on this topic. Maybe I can learn one or two things from the discussion.

 

[hossoso]

When you wrong as many people as I do, you would have to be a hypocrite to not be a very forgiving person.

 

[Hany]

If they apologize yes.

 

[Dakota rube]

Originally Posted by hossoso

When you wrong as many people as I do, you would have to be a hypocrite to not be a very forgiving person.

This is a very good way to look at it.
I forgive.
I hope I am forgiven.

 

[kwilkinson]

Nevarrrrrr

 

[MrG]

My policy is that I'll forgive nearly anything once, provided I care for the person and they're sincerely sorry.

 

[uhurit]

Sure...and then teach them a lesson they'll never forget, so that they never do it again

 

[Gingahbman]

Everyone gets a few free passes in my book.

 

[InPa]

In general yes, on exception no.

 

[leftover_salmon]

If they give what seems to be a sincere apology, then yes. Otherwise I hold a grudge forever.

 

[hendrix]

I forgive them in the sense that i won't remain angry at them or anything.

If it's a serious thing like a girlfriend cheating, i'll forgive them but i won't stay with them. So yeah, forgive, but not trust again.

 

[RedLantern]

Quicker than I'd like to, usually. Don't think twice, it's alright.

 

[olualbert]

Originally Posted by hendrix

I forgive them in the sense that i won't remain angry at them or anything.

If it's a serious thing like a girlfriend cheating, i'll forgive them but i won't stay with them. So yeah, forgive, but not trust again.


I think is pretty interesting you've said that....forgiving someone does not necessarily mean you condone their act but to empower yourself when discussing the situation and to devoid yourself of any pent-up feelings towards those that have wronged you.

 

[gotlighters]

depends on what they did.

 

[Fuuma]

"Nothing will be forgiven, everything will be forgotten."