Do you forgive people that have wronged you?

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  1. olualbert

    olualbert Senior member

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    When I was growing up, I was always told by my parent to forgive: let it go, forgive and forget.... and so on. My intellectual curiosity, however, jump-started recently when someone I cared about pointed my attention to it. So, I am asking folks in the forum, do you forgive people that have wronged you? Do you understand what forgiveness is? If so, share your opinion or thoughts on this topic. Maybe I can learn one or two things from the discussion.
     


  2. hossoso

    hossoso Coward and P*ssy

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    When you wrong as many people as I do, you would have to be a hypocrite to not be a very forgiving person.
     


  3. Hany

    Hany Senior member

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    If they apologize yes.
     


  4. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

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    When you wrong as many people as I do, you would have to be a hypocrite to not be a very forgiving person.

    This is a very good way to look at it.
    I forgive.
    I hope I am forgiven.
     


  5. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Having a Ball

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    Nevarrrrrr
     


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    MrG Senior member

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    My policy is that I'll forgive nearly anything once, provided I care for the person and they're sincerely sorry.
     


  7. uhurit

    uhurit Senior member

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    Sure...and then teach them a lesson they'll never forget, so that they never do it again
     


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    Gingahbman Senior member

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    Everyone gets a few free passes in my book.
     


  9. InPa

    InPa Well-Known Member

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    In general yes, on exception no.
     


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    leftover_salmon Senior member

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    If they give what seems to be a sincere apology, then yes. Otherwise I hold a grudge forever.
     


  11. hendrix

    hendrix Ill-proportioned

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    I forgive them in the sense that i won't remain angry at them or anything.

    If it's a serious thing like a girlfriend cheating, i'll forgive them but i won't stay with them. So yeah, forgive, but not trust again.
     


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    Quicker than I'd like to, usually. Don't think twice, it's alright.
     


  13. olualbert

    olualbert Senior member

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    I forgive them in the sense that i won't remain angry at them or anything.

    If it's a serious thing like a girlfriend cheating, i'll forgive them but i won't stay with them. So yeah, forgive, but not trust again.



    I think is pretty interesting you've said that....forgiving someone does not necessarily mean you condone their act but to empower yourself when discussing the situation and to devoid yourself of any pent-up feelings towards those that have wronged you.
     


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    gotlighters Senior member

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    depends on what they did.
     


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    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    "Nothing will be forgiven, everything will be forgotten."
     


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