I have very very curly dark brown hair, which would reach to the middle of my eyes if it was straight but as is doesn't quite reach my eyebrows. Also, around the sides and back it curls outward sometimes giving me, I fear, what appear to be wings. When my hair is wet everything still curls a lot, except it's just like I want--not as curly and, more importantly, against my head. However, a bit later it's standing up again and drives me crazy. How can I keep my hair down yet not necessarily give it a "wet" look? I've tried washing my hair with moisturizing shampoo and moisturizing conditioner, with just the shampoo or just the conditioner, or by not washing my hair for a while. I've also tried hair spray, which I've never liked, but it advertised not hardening hair (which it still did). I'd cut it short, which I vastly prefer because I don't have to do much to it, but a VIP likes it this way. So I just want something that's not sticky, not hard, and can keep hair in place. Help.