Conversation topics at a house party

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  1. VMan

    VMan Senior member

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    Isn't that everyone's dream?

    What, am I in the minority here???
     


  2. j

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    Yeah, in general, don't talk about yourself unless she asks a question of you (they do like a little mystery in a man, you know). Talk for one minute and then stop. Show interest by asking her sensible questions and listening (i.e., keep your mouth shut while her mouth is moving). Putting on an air of "calmness" and being tastefully humorous will show her the confidence she is looking for in a man. And, I wouldn't hang out with her all night, lest you want to appear like a needy leach. Go away for a while and come back an hour later or so, like you are independently minded, looked around at all the other girls, and chose to come back to her because she was the best at the party. Then ask her if she wants to "get out of here and get a cup of coffee/a drink/dinner?" If she can't leave because she's there with girlfriends or whatever, say, "I UNDERSTAND, well, I've really enjoyed talking with you tonight. How about we get dinner/coffee/drinks sometime next week?" If she seems interested in that, ask her for her number. Then call her a few days later to arrange the evening out together. PAY for 100% of the date.

    Alternatively, you could approach her, introduce yourself, and ask, "So... you like cock?"

    I've never tried that alternative though...
     


  4. VMan

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    That would probably result in a **SLAP** - unless she is that kind of girl. In the case of the latter, it could end in a good night.
     


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    (i) I start with a few phrases about the location, the event, whatever. This part is boring a bit, but helps to break the ice.

    (ii) I ask one question about herself. Might be about her job if she's a bit older and looks like a career-oriented lady. If she's in her early twenties, then I'd go for a question about her favourite hobby or TV show.

    (iii) At this point, I show interest about what she does for a living or about her favourite hobby/activity/tv show, and try to keep the conversation centered around herself. If she's an airplane pilot for instance, then I'd follow with "oh, I always wondered about all the steps involved to become a pilot. Isn't it really hard to get there?".

    (iv) after 10-15 minutes of talking on this topic, I excuse myself, tell her it was really nice to get to know her, and if I'm interested in seeing her again, I get her phone number or email.

    works fine,

    bern
     


  6. PeterMetro

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    Alternatively, you could approach her, introduce yourself, and ask, "So... you like cock?" I've never tried that alternative though...
    That would probably result in a **SLAP** - unless she is that kind of girl. Â In the case of the latter, it could end in a good night.
    Or, it could end with a case of the clap. Wrap it up fellas.
     


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    Music and movies are your best bet.

    Stay away from politics and religion, for now.
     


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    fellas .. I have been invited to a house party and seems like there will be chicaritas .. My problem is .. sometimes I have no words to say after some casual open line and conversation..
    Just talk about stuff that you are interested in and that are relatively gender neutral - your favorite movies/tv shows (Amber and Boston Rob - true love, or a crass marketing move?), the music that is playing, the crazy guy doing the funky chicken on the kitchen counter. If she is at all interested, she will help you out as long as you have an opinion about *something* - "Oh, c'mon, Coldplay/Dashboard Confessional/Lil Jon sucks. You really like him/them? Why? XYZ is way better." If she gives you monosyllabic answers and keeps watching the dancing guy, move on - she's not interested and you're just making yourself look pathetic.
    (While listening to "The Scientist", by Coldplay) What is wrong with Coldplay? Granted, they might not be the best band ever, but still some songs are pretty decent, good even one might say. Jon.
     


  9. LA Guy

    LA Guy Opposite Santa Staff Member Admin Moderator

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    Actually, that was my impression of what the girl might respond just to get some interesting conversation going. I sort of like Coldplay, although they seem inordinately into themselves.
     


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    What musician isn't? [​IMG] Jon.
     


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    Kai Senior member

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    Tell smart women they are beautiful, tell beautiful women they are smart.
    I'd forgotten about this. Â It's originally from Samuel Johnson, right? Â Wise man, your father.
    Not Samuel Johnson. Lord Chesterfield. His letters are a treasure trove of advice for social situations. Brings you to a realization of how little human society has changed in 250 years.
     


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    Thanks for the correction. Mea culpa.
     


  13. LabelKing

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    Seems a starting conversation about fashion might be appropriate.
     


  14. imageWIS

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    Of course, there is the risk of having her think that you might be homosexual / have homosexual inclination (as wrong as she may be, but since the stereotype is that straight men don't care a about clothes, and that gay men like clothes {especially fashion-oriented}), you might give the wrong impression if the conversation take a wrong turn whilst talking about fashion.

    (just saying is all)

    Jon.
     


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    Don't even try it guys, unless you want to sit there for hours hearing how her Jimmy Choos broke, and how somebody compilmented her on that oh so cheap Ralph Lauren sweater, and how they need to get a life. Unless of course you like to be board. Â [​IMG] Oh and
    where does one find that kind of girl, because if there is such a thing divorce may be imminent, unless of course you mean the Charring Cross Station kind of girl (prostitutes)
     


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