Contacting a girl for the first time

[Jr Mouse]

I have always followed the general rule of thumb to not contact a girl who I get their number for a couple days. It's something I always considered fairly standard practice for most guys. The rationale behind it is you don't want to come across desperate to the girl.

Recently, I asked a few of my close females friends what their opinion of it was. Surprisingly all of them said they like it when the guy texts/calls them the next day. It's a flattering change of pace and leaves the impression that the guy does not like to play games.

I'm curious what everyone here does. Do you wait a couple days or just play it by ear and contact them the next day if you feel like it?

 

[kwilkinson]

It seems pretty goddamned stupid to have a rule that you follow with every single girl you meet.

 

[Neo_Version 7]

You're a chip off the old sock.

 

[Crane's]

I'll either ask them when a good time to call is or I will tell them when I'll give them a call and then follow through with whatever is decided.

 

[Jr Mouse]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

It seems pretty goddamned stupid to have a rule that you follow with every single girl you meet.
Well, like I said it's a general rule of thumb. Served me well over the years, so I was surprised what my friends said. Not even sure why I started to think about it and wanted to ask them their opinions in the first place.

Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7

You're a chip off the old sock.

I think we need to get Metro to be my sock to complete the circle.

 

[BrianVarick]

I think girls like to see that your into them, and that your not going to follow the "rule" for them. I think people are over the fact that it looks desperate. I think it also goes along with how you presented yourself in the beginning when you met.

 

[Rambo]

I've never understood this rule bullshit. If I go through all the effort of flirting with you, complementing you, and asking you for your phone number, why the hell am I going to wait around to get in your pants?

 

[Piobaire]

Send a dicture next day.

 

[ConcernedParent]

Adherence to rules are ******* stupid. Either she likes you and will continue to like you or will find out sooner or later that you aren't worth the time.

 

[Piobaire]

Originally Posted by ConcernedParent

Adherence to rules are ******* stupid. Either she likes you and will continue to like you or will find out sooner or later that you aren't worth the time.

So you're saying dictures also?

 

[Huntsman]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

It seems pretty goddamned stupid to have a rule that you follow with every single girl you meet.
+1. I hate when men are like, what do women want? As if women acted like a homogeneous block. They're like, people.

 

[mordecai]

Originally Posted by Huntsman

+1. I hate when men are like, what do women want? As if women acted like a homogeneous block. They're like, people.

no, in several similar threads we determined that women are in fact impala.

 

[Huntsman]

Originally Posted by mharwitt

no, in several similar threads we determined that women are in fact impala.
My memory had it down as gazelle. But, whatever.

 

[sartorialism]

Originally Posted by Huntsman

+1. I hate when men are like, what do women want? As if women acted like a homogeneous block. They're like, people.

Should I put my neck out on this one?

 

[mordecai]

Originally Posted by sartorialism

Should I put my neck out on this one?

if you have to ask you're pathetically Beta. hell, you probably even laugh on the first date.