College transfers and social life (transferring colleges late here)?

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  1. Fisher Shard

    Fisher Shard Well-Known Member

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    Oh no, I am definitely transferring that is a given. I had a better social life in high school than I did at this place, and my high school only had 300 kids.

    I am going to be going to an SEC school which is known for being a party school. I cannot join a fraternity as I have 63 credit hours and will be transferring in as a junior.

    Any idea how in the world I can have the typical college experience? Anything I can do or is it going to be hopeless?

    to me by typical college experience I mean wild house parties, slutty girls, etc.

    Does it matter if I am by nature an outgoing kind of person?
     
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  2. Fisher Shard

    Fisher Shard Well-Known Member

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    see the reason I joined here is to make sure I am dressed right and dressed stylish to give a good first impression

    The big picture was for me to get a good style going so when I transfer to a new place I will give off a good impression.

    I am also working on getting a nice body (decent looking right now), and I am by nature an outgoing guy.
     
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    Fuck this is depressing. College is what you make of it. Just know that there are people in gucking community college having the time of their lives. Why? Because they make it enjoyable. Simply transferring to a bigger/better college won't broaden your interests or expand your circle. That starts now with a concerted effort at the school you are currently attending. Start joining clubs, sport league, bullshit social events, etc. Democrat? Join the young democrats. Republican? Join the young Republicans

    I was in a similar situation when I made the decision to switch to a "college town" school. I joined a frat, got laid, played in 2-3 sports leagues, got laid, joined/formed study groups, got laid, etc. like everyone has said, put yourself out there. Again and again. Soon you'll meet like minded individuals and with similar ambitions. Meeting people will become easier and you'll forget you ever had this problem. Just dont wait for a transfer, you can do all of this now. That way you'll be ready for the big leagues :p
     
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  4. Fisher Shard

    Fisher Shard Well-Known Member

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    UH DUDE

    forget getting laid here

    most women in my classes have families started

    yes this is very fucking depressing for me, because I am an outgoing guy and so are many other people I know but they have ALL suffered from bad social lives and are graduating college early (taking lots of hours) so they can get their degrees and move to a big city

    I am not going to do that, location makes a REALLY big difference. My friend who transferred has had a better social life there but he is different. He has the chiseled features, six pack, model look, is very athletic and so on. Now I am supposed to be going to a college that is a top 10 party school but it feels now to me that everything just happens during your freshman year.....
     


  5. Fisher Shard

    Fisher Shard Well-Known Member

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    Dude, I have EXHAUSTED all of my options here. Other than paying a lot of money to be in a frat, I have been outgoing but

    1. Most people work after classes, no time to do anything
    2. Most women I run into have families started already
    3. Campus goes dead after 5

    LETS not run away from the main point, I am going to transfer, that is it, I send in the papers, that decision is pretty much final.
     


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    How many people in your classes? 50, 80, 100? How many classes? 4,5,6? That's anywhere between 200-600 that you run into every single day and you have something in common already. Not enough, go to "club" week and peruse their offering. These want you to join their clubs and organizations. Walk up and atleast say hello.

    You a ton of opportunities to meet new people and atleast engage them in conversation. Start off with that.
     


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    Lol wut? Exhausted what options? What is the main point?
     


  8. Fisher Shard

    Fisher Shard Well-Known Member

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    No

    about 20 people in my classes

    and take into account that around 5 are my age group

    I do not think you have anything to really offer to my topic. You are blaming me for my shortcoming, I have done all I could do. And I have said I am going to transfer so why even worry about where I am at now?
     


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  11. Fisher Shard

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    thank you

    Somehow I will find a way to survive, life can't be over at 20 right?
     


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    Sometimes I feel difficult situations have the tendency to force creativity...which is a pretty great thing. I go to a 'commuter school', and at 20 I thought similar thoughts; however, I realized going to a different school wasn't going to fix the underlying problem, eventually the same wants would emerge again. I pushed myself, met so many great people, and I'm finishing up at that same commuter school - going away to grad school once done. Your social circle doesn't need to be filled only with those your age either, which again forces you to grow up - not a bad thing. Bottom line, I just don't see the worth in transfer; this is undergrad, likely more school will be down the road. Fraternities are overrated (for the most part) and likely limit more than enable.

    Another note, many schools will only allow you to transfer 60 credit hours, so with 77 hours completed, you are throwing away a semester worth of your time and money...

    Best of luck to whatever you choose.
     


  13. Fisher Shard

    Fisher Shard Well-Known Member

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    I do not think you read my statement

    1. applications have been sent in
    2. decisions have been made
    3. things have been packed
    4. plans have been made
    5. I am getting out of this dump

    you can make friends with older students, whatever, that isn't me, I want my age group of kids and honestly, I am just not ready to "grow up"

    to me, fun in life is experiencing the moment of getting drunk, wasted, sleeping with a random girl, and seeing crazy stuff happening at a party with kids your age

    why?

    I never experienced that and I want to. So screw the creativity, I am leaving, and graduate school?

    LOL, dude, I have had to do internships and work with grad students, you don't have time to really live life as a graduate student at all. You are too busy doing other things to even consider anything other than schoolwork.

    Regardless, thanks for your advice and I am glad things worked out for you as they did.
     
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    I read your post...what exactly are you asking then?

    I am just referring to the notion that undergrad isn't some end...
     


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    how can I as a college transfer live the same type of social life as the type of kids you see on American Pie basically
     


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