Can you dress to nice for every day wear?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by imanewbie, Jul 4, 2012.

  1. SuitedDx

    SuitedDx Senior member

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    I generally wear a suit to work. When hanging around the city, jeans/shorts, polo/button up, and casual shoes (e.g., Alden LWB, Converse). However, if I was still living in Huntington Beach, CA (where I lived before moving to NYC), I'd probably be wearing a tee, board shorts, and flip flops when hanging out.
     
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  2. randomhero88

    randomhero88 Well-Known Member

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    Forgive me for being a contrarion to many of the threads on here, but I disagree to an extent.

    I live in a city full of people without much ambission or care for their physical appearance. With that said, I get "You're a pretty boy aren't you?" quite a bit. That's even when I'm just wearing dress slacks and a golf shirt.

    I always dress nicer than 99% of people in the bars/clubs in my town, but I definitely tone it down. I would dress completely different if I lived in a big city. You abviously don't want to go out looking like a slob, but if you're at a bar where there are people wearing cargo shorts and flip flops, you have the potential to come of pretentious.

    Sometimes there's a time and a place to stand out and other times, it's not the worst thing in the world to be cleanly dressed, but toned down enough to enjoy the night.
     


  3. deandbn

    deandbn Senior member

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    Newbie, dont let those guys put you down. The clothing you talk of sounds quite normal to me. Tell those guys that it is time for them to respect what you like to wear just as you respect what they wear.
     


  4. jones12

    jones12 Well-Known Member

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    My everyday suits are for work, but for strolling around I like my sports coat or just a nice clean white or navy shirt and jeans.
     


  5. antikantian

    antikantian Senior member

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    My casual attire depends on where I am geographically. I'm originally from Manhattan, and typically my casual wear there consists of sport coat, shirt, ps, and usually a tie. Now, in North Carolina, the population of which consists mostly of young urban professionals, I wear pretty much the same thing minus the tie, and it doesn't really seem out of place.

    It doesn't sound like you're over-dressing so much as your friends are just radically underdressed. This may sound odd, but I've never worn a non-collared shirt (t-shirt, etc) outside of high school gym class.
     


  6. jon54

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    Suits primarily for workbut for casual occasions some slacks and blazers, polos..
     


  7. jon54

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    Suits primarily for workbut for casual occasions some slacks and blazers, polos..
     


  8. chet31

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    OP, I sympathize. I live in Madison WI, one of the more "casual" places to dress in the USA. By "casual," I mean jeans, t-shirt, jogging shoes, and maybe a backpack. That's if you're a tenured college professor. People who wear "North Face" are considered snobs. In addition, my friends are among the worst offenders.

    You cannot dress crazily more formal than everyone else in your surroundings. For example, a lawyer wearing a tuxedo to court, or a 20-something wearing a Brook Bros sport coat, Incotex trousers, and Allen Edmonds Park Avenues to a campus dive bar. It's OK to dress a little better than your peers, but not too much better.

    Sad but true, you sometimes have to dumb it down a bit. Some tricks. 1.) Do not wear "trousers." Wear jeans, they can be expensive, but you will at least blend in, and there is some respect among slobs for a good pair of jeans. 2.) Do not wear a sport coat unless it is at least jacket weather. This may still make you overdressed, in which case buy a nice leather jacket. Expensive leather jacket OK, expensive sport coat, not OK in many situations. 3.) If you wear a button-down shirt, don't tuck it in. 4.) If you are going to "splurge," footwear is the place to do it. T-shirt, jeans, John Lobbs will fly, because nobody will know what John Lobbs are.

    Good luck.
     


  9. Spurious

    Spurious Senior member

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    I wholeheartly disagree and the tuxedo example is quoted way too often although it's incorrect.
    A tuxedo in court is out of place, because a court is not an event to wear a tuxedo to.

    Trousers, chinos, button down shirts, slacks and what not, are for everyday wear. If other people around you dont wear them, doesnt make them out of place.

    OP, you are wearing pretty standard clothing and your friends will soon get used to it.
     


  10. F. Corbera

    F. Corbera Senior member

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    I wore black tie to a Federal courthouse just a few weeks ago.

    But then, so did all the guys.
     


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    F. Corbera Senior member

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    I believe you.
     
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  12. TC (Houston)

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    Lol +1.
     


  13. cincydavid

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    I guess the big question is this...who gets more tail? You or the slobs?

    I can't stand blue jeans, think they are terribly uncomfortable, so I wear khaki cotton trousers, I've done that since I was in college in the 80's. I used to get razzed for overdressing, but the older I get, the less I hear about it. You do have to be aware of your surroundings...wear fancy clothes to a biker bar and you'll likely get your ass beat.

    My personal, self-imposed casual dress "uniform" is khaki shorts, polo shirt and boat shoes in the summer, khaki pants and a long sleeve button down with loafers the rest of the year. I don't have to think about it or worry about it, and my biggest decision becomes what color shirt to wear.
     


  14. johnvw

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    What was the occasion?
     


  15. imanewbie

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    I have known these guys all my life the conversation comes up on occassion (4 times yearly every year now for past 30 plus years). they always ask me over and over why do I dress the way I dress. I just tell them over and over, "I dress to make me feel good, I like the feel of cotton touching my skin, clothes that fit me and ones off the rack dont fit me no matter what t shirt or pants etc'

    No im not young as some of you claim Iam in fact im older than probaby 50% of the SF members here I bet. Not going to disclose it of course (gotta keep some ananomity here hahaha)

    I wear pleather shoes (so I call them) because im dumbing down my shoes attire (as most folks have suggested already I did already long ago for my shoes). I realized buying 300 dollar shoes for casual wear as in everyday wear was not worth the price the environment I put them in. So I bought the casual 100 to 150 dollar price range (non recraftable) and put those through punishment and buy every new pair yearly vs spending 300 plus yearly on shoes for one pair. Being budget concious here folks so stay with me...I know alot of members willl tell me 'more expensive the longer they last etc...' My other 300 plus dollar shoes are worn once a week......

    the question I posed was more towards the question towards members not me specifically since I already been asked this many times over and my respones are the same. I was more curious what others thought who I know dress better than I do daily and what their thoughts were for themselves.


    YES im very comfortable the wear I dress I believe all men should dress as casual as me (my standards), but hey thats my world right.
     


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