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Can I wear a pocket square to a funeral?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by cappyg00k, Sep 22, 2006.

  1. cappyg00k

    cappyg00k Member

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    Hey guys, going to a funeral and will be dress in all black, of course. However, I was wondering if you guys thought a white linen pocket square in a TV fold would be appropriate? Or should it be no pocket squares at all. Thanks.
     
  2. LabelKing

    LabelKing Senior member

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    I think that should be perfectly appropriate.
     
  3. mrchapel

    mrchapel Senior member

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    IMO, wearing a pocket square could potentially draw attention to yourself, no matter how inadvertent it may be. Safe card says to go without; surely you can go a day in honor of the lost one without wearing one? My condolences.
     
  4. TheMoops

    TheMoops New Member

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    Goddamn man, someone died and you're worried about a pocket square?
    [​IMG]
     
  5. Walter

    Walter Senior member

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    Goddamn man, someone died and you're worried about a pocket square?
    [​IMG]

    Dont be like that.

    Yes, you can wear a pocket square, as long as it is white.
     
  6. AlanC

    AlanC Senior member

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    Yes, I attended a funeral a couple of weeks ago wearing a white linen in a tv fold just as you describe. It was barely peeking out of the pocket. I feel as exposed without a pocket square as I do without a tie; the ensemble just doesn't feel complete without it. As for drawing attention to yourself, at the funeral I went to the suit and tie probably drew attention anyway. I saw a guy in jeans and one of those big wallets chained to his belt.

    My condolences.
     
  7. Nonk

    Nonk Senior member

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    Not owning, and having no intention of buying a black suit, I wear a grey suit to funerals.

    I wear this with a white shirt and a black silk tie. I have a black silk pocket hankie which I wear with it.

    I use a quite subdued puff for this and have never felt incorrectly dressed.

    Of course a simple white folded hankie in linen is appropriate for this, as virtually all occasions.
     
  8. Ambulance Chaser

    Ambulance Chaser Senior member

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    I wore the exact pocket square you are describing to the last funeral I attended. The funeral was of a tailor, so I thought it was not only appropriate, but fitting.
     
  9. Dragon

    Dragon Senior member

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    Perhaps he wants to dress up nicely out of respect.
     
  10. Huntsman

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    My condolences.

    I never wear a pocket square to funerals, out of a sense of 'I am not attired thus because I enjoy it, but out of respect for whomever.' Same with jewelry.

    Also, all black is ok IF you are an immediate family member or a close personal friend of the deceased. If you're not, it is as if you are presuming the same level of grief as those who are actually 'in mourning.' BTW, if you do rate all black, wear the square if you wish, in that case wear whatever you want.

    Regards,
    Huntsman
     
  11. stach

    stach Senior member

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    Orthodox for the most part still wears black to funerals.
     
  12. Ivan Kipling

    Ivan Kipling Senior member

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    I am Greek Orthodox. I wear black, to funerals. A pocket square, so long as it's not ebulliently done up, is fine. I'd wear a white square, straight across the pocket. For me, funerals are a very, very formal occasion. I always get dressed up. At my mother's funeral, which was private, both my sister and I were dressed to the teeth. I'm very glad we made that effort.
     
  13. grimslade

    grimslade Senior member

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    I wore the exact pocket square you are describing to the last funeral I attended. The funeral was of a tailor, so I thought it was not only appropriate, but fitting.


    "Fitting"? Was that a pun?
     
  14. Mr. Checks

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    I wore the exact pocket square you are describing to the last funeral I attended. The funeral was of a tailor, so I thought it was not only appropriate, but fitting.

    That's about the only time I'd wear one. (sorry about the tailor...)

    There are good times to play down to the mean, and a funeral would be one of them.
     
  15. itsstillmatt

    itsstillmatt Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Who cares?

    It is a piece of freaking linen, it really does not matter one bit.

    Sometimes I think we suffer from a great deal of overconstipation on this board.
     
  16. Jovan

    Jovan Senior member

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    I'm afraid you're confusing SF with Max Payne.
    Perhaps he wants to dress up nicely out of respect.
    QFT. Do the white linen, but keep it to a square with only a little peeking out. That's how I'd play it. My condolences, as well.
     
  17. Edward Appleby

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    I'm afraid you're confusing SF with Max Payne.
    I just found that and reinstalled it. Great game.

    Anyway, I think a pocket square is a nice show of respect, just like a tie. I'd keep it white though.
     
  18. JLibourel

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    I've attended five funerals and memorial services in the past couple of years. I have worn pocket squares to every one of them. Surely a simple linen square in a discreet TV fold is something that nobody could object to.
     
  19. Jovan

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    I guess. I am pretty partial to a square though because it has an understated elegance and doesn't look as affectatious as peaks.
     
  20. itsstillmatt

    itsstillmatt Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I guess. I am pretty partial to a square though because it has an understated elegance and doesn't look as affectatious as peaks.
    IMO Peaks=Never.
     

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