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Black tie wedding

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My neice's wedding later this month is a "Black Tie" affair. She has requested that her dad and uncles wear similar shirts and neck ties. The only issue I have with this is that the shirts are to have laydown collars and only regular neck ties, no bow or ascots. Meanwhile the groom is wearing a nice wing collar shirt and real bow tie.
I have told her that IMO, the laydown collar and necktie will make the tuxedo too similar to a black suit. But while she agrees, her preference is clear.
It is her day and I will go along. However, is it just me, or do others think that the laydown collar and regular necktie just do not go with a tuxedo?

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I always think that wing collars look tacky and a good regular collar is much better with a tuxedo. However, I would rather not be seen wearing a tie with a tuxedo. A much more palatable idea would be to have you wear a less formal bowtie and the groom a proper, black one.

But, it's always fun to wear a tuxedo so I guess I would go along with out much protest.

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I too think that a regular turndown collar is more appropriate for a black tie event. I would suggest saving the wing collar for white tie, but it is generally accepted with black tie as well. I am not a big fan of the long tie with a tux look, but it is seen so much on the Hollywood elite that it hardly looks out of the ordinary anymore. Plus, as you already know, the bride gets her way, no matter the "traditional rules" of dress. By the way, when you say the wedding is a "black tie affair," do you mean all of the guests will be wearing tuxedos? I am in my late twenties, so I have been to a number of weddings over the last few years, many of them very nice, but none so formal that the guests wore tuxedos. I think a formal wedding is a great idea. I am glad some people still have them.
 

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Perhaps I should clarify that I am not opposed to the laydown collar, but rather with the regular tie combination. IMO this makes the tuxedo resemble a black suit and takes away from the occasion. Still it is her day, and so I will go along.
WBY, yes the male (and perhaps some female)guests will be wearing tuxedos. It is a formal affair.

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