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Black tie optional and the waiter problem

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by AX2007, Mar 12, 2014.

  1. AX2007

    AX2007 Active Member

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    So I have a wedding coming up that is "black tie optional". While I would love to wear my tux, I'm worried about looking like one of the waiters at the reception, who I am sure will be wearing a polyester dinner jacket and clip on bow tie.

    Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Again, I would like to wear my dinner jacket if possible.
     


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    Wear the tux, and look good. With a real bowtie, naturally.
     


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    Although a polyester tuxedo and a clip-on bow is very, very far from what I personally wear, this exchange from 30 Rock pretty much sums up when it's a good idea to wear a tuxedo:

    Liz Lemon: Why are you wearing a tux?
    Jack: It's after 6 o'clock Lemon. What am I, a farmer?
     


  5. AX2007

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    One of my favorite quotes of all time, from one of my favorite episodes of 30 Rock.

    (FYI, polyester is far from what I wear as well. I was referring to the waiters)
     


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    archibaldleach Senior member

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    Wear your tuxedo. Don't walk around with a serving tray or taking drink orders. You should be okay.
     


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    Wear your tux. Dance with gorgeous ladies to ensure you're not mistaken for staff.
     


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    This. Wear it well, act like a gentleman, and don't serve food, or take orders.
     


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    Wear a suit, it is a wedding
     


  10. AX2007

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    I'll try not to serve food or take drink orders.

    Thank you for all the wonderful advice, gentlemen.
     


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    For which the invitation indicates black tie optional, making a tuxedo most appropriate, if you own one.
     


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