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Black tie for an 18th birthday debutante ball...possible?


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Jun 16, 2010
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Just as the Spanish have Quinceanera's, Filipinos have 18th Birthday "Debuts" which are our version of a debutante ball here in America.

My sister, probably influenced by me dressing up all the god damn time, wants a "classy" event and wants to put Black-Tie Preferred/ Optional etc. on the invitations. While I am proud of her for trying, I doubt that many people know what black tie even means. Don't get me wrong, we come from a pretty affluent area, but I doubt that anyone will be wearing anything that will resemble black tie as MC sees it (besides me and some friends of mine).

What do you think I should put on the invitation that will result in the most "formal/classy" outcome? If I put black tie, I'm pretty sure I'm going to have a bunch of 18 year old hipsters who "want to stand out" by wearing colored ties, long black ties, and any other combination of garish rags they can put together. Perhaps if I put something like "formal", the overall outcome will be better? What do you think?

(On a sidenote: On her prom night, my sister complained endlessly about her date's "lack of style" as he didn't want to wear a plain black tie/ white shirt/ tuxedo combo because it was too "plain" [he went with a silver glitter bow tie and black shirt instead]. I have never been more proud of her. Thanks MC!)

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