Best Course for a First Date

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by HitMan009, Feb 23, 2005.

  1. topcatny

    topcatny Senior member

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    Damn I wish my family was more like this. I feel like they all avert their eyes and take great interest in the crumbs that fell on the floor everytime the check comes.
     


  2. sam

    sam Senior member

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    Maybe, but the OP was in the context of a first date. Dinner on a first date seems like you're trying way to hard. Low-key, fun is always best. Women want to feel like they're seducing you, also.
     


  3. drizzt3117

    drizzt3117 Senior member

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    Again, I think it really depends on the girl, here in OC, dinner on the first date may be exactly the right ticket.
     


  4. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    I have been given a "gift" a couple of times, that I remember. One time, I thought it was too forward and disliked the feeling it gave me, another time I still thought it was too forward (it was a piece of jewelry), but the man was nice, so I took it better.  Tread carefully.

    I'm not sure all these posts are helping you.  There are many, many women out there, with so varied a life experience, that I think the best thing you can do is be attentive.  And even then, it is so easy to misjudge a person.

    Maybe you shouldn't ask yourself so many questions and go with your heart.
     


  5. Ambulance Chaser

    Ambulance Chaser Senior member

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    Alexis, we need your $.02.
     


  6. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    Probably true.

    I am unlike most women I know.
     


  7. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    You know, an idea might be to ask your questions on a women's forum that those you date potentially frequent.
     


  8. globetrotter

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    sorry, that is already a little too creepy. I think you can summarize what F is saying in a way that fits common sense - if the woman is into you, she will like the gift (or lack of it), she will want to pay for her share (or be happy to have you pay), in short, if she is into you, things should go well what ever happens. if she doens't like you, if you give her a gift you are too hasty, if you don't you are cheap, if you offer to buy her dinner you are presumptious, if you don't you are cheap. if she is undecided, well, it is difficult to say how each will influence her, each woman is different. good luck with that [​IMG] [​IMG] seriously, the best bet to me seemed to work out a system that I was comfortable and kept me true to myself, while allowing me to show off the (actual, not fake) positive aspects of myself. then mix with a lot of people of the sex you are interested in until you find one that you really like, and who likes you. if you look at this coldly, the variables here are how easy you can make it for a person to identify your attractiveness, how many people you date, and how high your standards are.
     


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    HitMan009 Senior member

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    Hmm, I never thought of it like that.... Sometimes when heading to the date, it was more of a spur of the moment thing to pick up something. Like if I remembered something she said, etc. I find it awkward on occasions to arrive empty-handed. Always so many things to consider...... does it ever get easier???????? [​IMG]
     


  10. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    no, and then you get married and it is a whol differnt set of problems.
     


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    Damn it, I was afraid of that answer.
     


  12. topcatny

    topcatny Senior member

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    (globetrotter @ Feb. 25 2005,06:41) no, and then you get married and it is a whol differnt set of problems.
    Damn it, I was afraid of that answer.
    LOL I will wholeheartedly agree with globetrotter on this. Although I would choose the problems that come with marriage over the problems with dating any day.
     


  13. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    (HitMan009 @ Feb. 25 2005,09:55)
    no, and then you get married and it is a whol differnt set of problems.
    Damn it, I was afraid of that answer.
    LOL I will wholeheartedly agree with globetrotter on this. Although I would choose the problems that come with marriage over the problems with dating any day.
    agreed
     


  14. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    I was always dead set against marriage, but I have to say that I have never been happier in my life. Now, raising a child and doing it conscientiously, that is a challenge.
     


  15. Luc-Emmanuel

    Luc-Emmanuel Senior member

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    Hitman, as stated by others, dinner is too big for a first date : you may want to show that you are not THAT interested : keep some challenge, mystery, etc... for later. A couple of drinks in a trendy place, then a nice walk outside to chit-chat. Give you both time to appraise the other.

    .luc
     


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