(Fabienne @ Feb. 23 2005,08:46) When I was single, I always preferred any avenue less obvious than that of the "date routine". Â American women may feel differently, though. Â I hear they expect a lot in general, such as having the man pay for the dinner. Â That's a complete cultural warp for me. The man paying for everything is a foreign concept in Europe? It's probably more "me" than it is the culture in France (you can't generalize, it is different depending on the country, in Europe). But as L-E mentioned, it is probably more likely to be "going out for drinks or coffee" than a dinner thing, in the beginning. I've often paid one time, let the other person pay another time. Or the bill is split. When you are talking poor students in Paris, in my days at least, we usually took care of our own tab. I don't like it when someone insists on paying for me. It annoys me to no end. Even to this day (unless it is my husband; and I will reciprocate at some point). Business is different, but I still encounter blurry situation.