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Bar-Mitzvah dress code?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Chrenetique, Dec 16, 2011.

  1. Chrenetique

    Chrenetique Senior member

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    Thread for the Jewish ones. A bar-mitzvah seems to be an important religious event, hence it should require "formal" dress (actually, a simple suit). But it usually takes place in the morning, and the party after the ceremony is often very, very casual... So, I think the "formal" suit demanded for weddings or funerals (charcoal or navy suit, crisp white shirt, black shoes, etc.) can look out of place for a bar-mitzvah. I may be wrong however. Is it correct to dress down just a little bit for this occasion? By "dressing down", I mean the usual SF attire: sportcoat with dark pants, subdued blue shirt, sober tie with a white pocket square, and dark brown monkstraps. Is it suitable?

    (Unfortunately, I lost my Kiton tallit.)
     
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  2. Shirtmaven

    Shirtmaven Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    if the party is a luncheon after the service, then that sounds perfect.
     


  3. rathebaindc

    rathebaindc Senior member

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    While my initial inclination is to agree that slacks and a sportscoat would be fine, my second reaction is that there are going to be at least a dozen 13 year-old boys there, most of whom will be wearing a suit. I think if 13 year-olds will put on a suit, I myself will wear a suit. It doesn't have to be an interview outfit, but I would go with a suit.
     


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    viator Senior member

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    Wear a suit. Like you said, it is a serious religious occasion and your dress should show your respect for the participants and their/your religion.
     


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    MyOtherLife Senior member

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    I agree with a suit. Very important day where a boy becomes a young man.

    A tip for Gentile guests (if applicable)...
    On wearing a Kippah (or Yarmulke), If you are a gentile (non Jew) and the service is in a reformed temple you probably don't need to wear one, but if it is a conservative temple, then wear one. Wearing one in either setting is a sign of respect to God and the hosts. Some services have them available for guests at the door. If you are able to check with the host beforehand, do so. I always wear one myself at such events.
     
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  6. Chrenetique

    Chrenetique Senior member

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    Actually, I'm asking this because I don't have "formal" suits anymore. All my suits have flecked, tan, Prince of Wales fabrics... i.e. not suitable for a great occasion. Ergo, I thought a modest, subdued sportcoat would do the trick.
     


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    SpooPoker Internet Bigtimer and Most Popular Man on Campus Dubiously Honored Affiliate Vendor

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    Bad move posting this on Friday night man. :lol:

    Wait for in stitches to finish Shabbos, he will give you the low down.
     


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    curzon Senior member

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    Ought the pocket square compliment the kippah? Me thinks the most attractive ones are the kippot srugot, which are lovely crocheted. I like geometric patterns.
     


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    Spencer Senior member

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    :rotflmao:

    Donnie, you know I don't roll on the Shabbos!
     
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    ALFAMALE Senior member

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    wear a suit, you can't goo wrong..
     


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    FWIW, I attended a bat mitzvah back in June. Religious services in the late morning, followed by a luncheon at a fondue restaurant.

    I wore a tan poplin suit, white OCBD, blue silk knit tie, tassel loafers, and silk pocket square. I was neither the most formally dressed man present, nor the least - I'd say somewhere solidly in the middle. (And the rabbi was wearing a bow tie. Good for him!)

    It's really not a bad idea for a man to have at least one grey or navy "formal" suit, just in case he needs it for a religious ceremony, funeral, court appearance, wedding, or something similar.
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    This thread is such a winner.
     


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    trigirdbers Well-Known Member

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    Yes, a suit is quite necessary. Formality should be keyed in this instance to the ceremony, not the reception.
     


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    "Bar Mitzvah" ...oh had to look that one up on Wikipedia.
     


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    You are kidding, right?
     


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