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Balance in Life, Staying Focused On Life Goals Other Than $

Discussion in 'Business, Careers & Education' started by LooksGood, Jul 20, 2013.

  1. Thearkly

    Thearkly Senior member

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    Well there might be something else that I may not know of yet. There's Hedge Fund Analyst and the military.
     
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  2. LooksGood

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    how? I'm taxed like a third of my income
     
  3. Thearkly

    Thearkly Senior member

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    Pay for my college. Its deductible from your taxes!
     
  4. JJeff

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    One of the biggest challenges most of us face is the ability to focus on our goals in life while balancing other aspects of our lives, as well. I know that it is a huge challenge at times to devote the amount of resources necessary for reaching my goals, while also providing the attention necessary to maintain my family relationships. I won't settle for missing out on moments with my child that I will never be able to have again in exchange for money. But the reality is that there is much I want to accomplish and life demands money in order to live. Finding a balance among it all is probably one of the greatest secrets in life.
     
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  5. LooksGood

    LooksGood Senior member

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    Hi, past self! My healthy body has gone to shit now. I am starting a running program and am thinking of going to a conference room periodically throughout the day to do sets of pushups. I gotta warn you against delivery, those $20 add up both in terms of cc bills and pounds.
     
  6. bings

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    OP: been there and done that

    you are not afraid of anything, stop lying. you're challenging yourself and that's a good thing.

    eliminate your commute. i had a similar commute and then bought a place 4 minutes from work. the savings in time is worth $1,000+ a month in mortgage with your income. just shut up and move.

    as for working with smart people, good, they'll make you smarter.

    as for 50 hours a week, that's bullshit, you should be working more than that.

    as for $135k a year at 29, that's also bullshit, you should be making more if can make that much while being afraid of things.

    as for social goals, what the hell are you doing with all of the other hours of the week? after you gain back your commuting time you need to stop wasting time doing whatever else your doing that isnt adding value.

    work your ass off now so that you dont have to when you're 50. everyone has to earn their stripes.

    come back in here when you're making $250k a year and working 50 hours... then stop taking the income as personal income and start using holdcos and trusts and shit. then start working less... then post pics of hot chics your banging or falling in love with and marrying.

    and stop posting crap like this on the internet too.
     
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  7. Shawn Yang

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    Real talk homie.
     
  8. LooksGood

    LooksGood Senior member

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    Yeah the commute is a lot of it, I live in SF and commute to Silicon Valley. I didn't move there because I thought it was easier to network socially and work-wise in SF. I do waste time at home, being exhausted and depressed makes me lazy to go out most of the time. I have made a new year's resolution to start looking into other avenues though(investing). I've also started approaching random women for dates.
     
  9. bings

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    get into on-line dating.

    i dont have first hand experience but a bunch of my friends or clients are doing ridiculous things through on-line dating. some of them accidentally fell in love too.
     
  10. mkarim

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    +100
     
  11. Lord-Barrington

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    Better idea -- strive for a balanced life, meet a lovely woman, marry her, get home everyday before 6, make love, make dinner, watch a movie, make love again, go to bed. Have babies, etc. etc.

    Your advice seems like a recipe to be living alone in a cold, empty condo in your thirties, perusing online ads for escort agencies.

    There is nothing wrong with striving for success and working hard at a young age. Never at the expense of what truly brings happiness though -- personal fulfillment, family, self discovery and having an impact in the lives of others.
     
  12. bings

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    no, it yielded what your first point was.
     
  13. Lord-Barrington

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    No one ever wins an argument over the Internet, so I will take your word for it and not attempt to argue otherwise.

    The path you suggest, however, seems to be difficult to conjugate with a healthy, balanced lifestyle that gives you time for yourself and for others.
     
  14. GusW

    GusW Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    As someone more than twice your age, let me share with you that the best decision I ever made for myself and my family was to work very close to home. Making that a priority meant working late wasn't a big deal, I had time for the gym, I could get to my sons athletic practices and games. I didn't have to spend $$$$ commuting or hours battling traffic. A no commute lifestyle gives you time to live your life. Go for it no matter what it costs in dollars.
     
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  15. Lord-Barrington

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    On this, I agree 100% with both pocketsquare and bings. Ditch the commute -- you will not regret it.
     
  16. bings

    bings Senior member

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    you just won by agreeing with me :)

    you're good at the internet
     
  17. Lord-Barrington

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    We will agree to agree on what we agree on, and disagree on the rest.
     
  18. papa kot

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    +1 for ditching the commute.

    I have a rule -- I refuse to commute for more than 30 mins each way. I arrange my working hours and jobs accordingly. I may limit my options in terns of earning more $, but having an option to be home early, go to the gym and enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning is priceless.
     
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  19. Svenn

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    OP, what you need is more pussy. Simply being in central SF clearly isn't really helping with that and if you never have any free time it never will. Move to where your job is, get a cool pad, exercise, and then sign up for online dating or travel more. The professional guys that can get by without online dating in urban areas usually have active social lives/big social circles or in fields where it's easy to pick up strangers, which probably doesn't apply to you (or me for that matter). My situation was very similar to yours, except even more extreme- 20 hours at 110k vs a really nasty 50 at 220k. Most people are shocked by what I chose but I don't regret it.
     
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  20. CTLION

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    Balance is important to me. I have read quite a few forums written by people that are worried about where they are going and how they are going to get there. I wouldn't throw a timeline on it but there are three ways to move your career forward (IMO).

    1) Work hard, receive accolades and get promoted

    2) Leave your current company for an equal title but with a national brand name

    3) Leave your company for a lesser brand name but better title

    If you were to look at my career, I have gone from sale rep -> VP with the same company then moved to a huge name in my industry but a lesser title then went from there to a VP at a start up and finally to a Director of the SE USA and Latin America with one of the biggest names in my industry.

    Each position offered more money but by going back and forth from brand name to start up it allowed me to move my career forward faster.

    My current position offers me terrific balance. I have three options every day...1) work from my office downtown (45 min commute), work from my home office or work in the field with my reports either in the SE USA, the Caribbean, Mexico, Central America or South America.
    What may seem odd is that I often choose the downtown office over my home office! but it gives me the freedom if I want it.
     

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