I'd second a Pathfinder, Xterra or if you can find one the four door Frontier Pick-up (it had a small bed). My parents have owned 3 Pathfinders each of which has lasted over 200k+. They're really well put together, great to drive and a good size for an SUV. If you're looking at a Pathfinder try to get an 01 or above with the 3.3L V6. I've also heard really good things about the Honda CRV. However, I don't know how emasculated you want to feel while driving.