Availability of 25-35yo SWF's

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  1. Huntsman

    Huntsman Senior member

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    Why don't you just do online dating? It's the most rational, significant achievement in relationships since the invention of deodorant. Unless you're a high-rolling player, it's beyond me why anyone would think they'll find the perfect match just by moping around the city looking for strangers.
    Thinking about it. Modern life is hard on teh relationshipz. Is it ridiculous to think that on account of my schedule (see above) that is a stupid thing to try? I'd be like, I work 17h/day 4/days a week, 8h on Friday, and I have to study 8h/day on the weekends...I may be screwing myself on that count.
    Single White Females? You've got to narrow down your field of acceptable races. I refuse to date any catholics, anyone with black hair or eyes, scots, irish, (or any other celt), any persons from "the continent" including germans, and last but not least- slavs. ....this is sarcasm, of course, for the OP's edification.
    Dude. I'm with you -- as in my OP the W was just because people know SWF is a dating acronym. Celts (esp. redheads) +1, Continentals (esp w/accent) +1, many other backgrounds and nationalities +1. ~ H
     


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    ime, this isn't as good of an idea as you think it is.
    Perhaps not!
    This. Are you sure they're not lying to your face about that as a way to soft reject your AZZ?[​IMG]
    I had that concern, but usually can verify via the friend-of-friend route.
    Also you need to stop being so picky, drop the "S".
    Dude. Maybe you're right -- I would have no problems then!
    Hold on, mate. You work a full-time job (I'm going to assume 40 hours a week), are a 1L in law school, and commute for four hours each day? Where would you fit in time to maintain a relationship with a woman? Why would a woman want to get into a relationship with you if you can't spend a lot of time with her?
    Yep, or at least, close enough. I'm so far around the bend....
    [...] you should just do you.
    I am, believe me. But the very real truth is that a relationship is the best possible thing I could do for me. This is at extreme odds with my situation and perhaps if this was my priority I shouldn't be doing what I'm doing, but that is the conspiracy of circumstances no one would believe if I were to disclose them, but I'm not. But this is all far from my question -- what percentage of women not wearing rings and in the age group specified are not currently in relationships? ~ H
     


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    Thinking about it. Modern life is hard on teh relationshipz. Is it ridiculous to think that on account of my schedule (see above) that is a stupid thing to try? I'd be like, I work 17h/day 4/days a week, 8h on Friday, and I have to study 8h/day on the weekends...I may be screwing myself on that count. Dude. I'm with you -- as in my OP the W was just because people know SWF is a dating acronym. Celts (esp. redheads) +1, Continentals (esp w/accent) +1, many other backgrounds and nationalities +1. ~ H
    Oh ok, I thought the W was some reference to Bush, lol. Anyway, I'm a 3L and I know where you're coming from, though I'm in a relationship. I cannot believe how ugly the girls in law school are, especially compared to undergrad. In my school there are like 4 attractive women in the whole place. I've met a few shy nice girls with similar humble personalities to my own, but most of them seem like alpha-females that would be high maintenance. Also there seems to be a significant amount of female students strutting around in tight outfits and flirting with the male students, only to exclaim with glee that they're 'in a relationship' when the guy asks them out. I've found much more companionship outside the borders of the U.S., I suggest you use your huge fed loans to take a trip to somewhere like Bangkok this winter break. you'll find what you're looking for.
     


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    Why don't you just do online dating? It's the most rational, significant achievement in relationships since the invention of deodorant. Unless you're a high-rolling player, it's beyond me why anyone would think they'll find the perfect match just by moping around the city looking for strangers.

    Single White Females? You've got to narrow down your field of acceptable races. I refuse to date any catholics, anyone with black hair or eyes, scots, irish, (or any other celt), any persons from "the continent" including germans, and last but not least- slavs. ....this is sarcasm, of course, for the OP's edification.


    Honestly I have way way better luck in real life than I do online. I've tried it in recent months and the quality of woman who responds to me on line is well below what I achieve in real life. I think a lot of my attraction doesn't come through in photos.
     


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    Honestly I have way way better luck in real life than I do online. I've tried it in recent months and the quality of woman who responds to me on line is well below what I achieve in real life. I think a lot of my attraction doesn't come through in photos.
    i know what you mean, but when I tried it, I almost felt like george clooney in 'Burn after Reading' -I had several different people to sit down with a couple times a week so I could pick and choose, rather than hang all my hopes on just one individual I knew little about.
     


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    i know what you mean, but when I tried it, I almost felt like george clooney in 'Burn after Reading' -I had several different people to sit down with a couple times a week so I could pick and choose, rather than hang all my hopes on just one individual I knew little about.

    I guess I am too picky online. LOL
     


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    I've tried it in recent months and the quality of woman who responds to me on line is well below what I achieve in real life.
    Yeah, I've heard that any semi-attractive woman who signs up for a dating site is inundated immediately with 100 messages, a significant proportion of them from very attractive men. In real life situations, said woman can't afford to be as choosy, since there are many fewer men with the balls to approach random women at a bookstore, coffee shop, bar, etc.
     


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    Yeah, I've heard that any semi-attractive woman who signs up for a dating site is inundated immediately with 100 messages, a significant proportion of them from very attractive men. In real life situations, said woman can't afford to be as choosy, since there are many fewer men with the balls to approach random women at a bookstore, coffee shop, bar, etc.

    maybe that's it
     


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    Oh ok, I thought the W was some reference to Bush, lol. Anyway, I'm a 3L and I know where you're coming from, though I'm in a relationship. I cannot believe how ugly the girls in law school are, especially compared to undergrad. In my school there are like 4 attractive women in the whole place. I've met a few shy nice girls with similar humble personalities to my own, but most of them seem like alpha-females that would be high maintenance. Also there seems to be a significant amount of female students strutting around in tight outfits and flirting with the male students, only to exclaim with glee that they're 'in a relationship' when the guy asks them out. I've found much more companionship outside the borders of the U.S., I suggest you use your huge fed loans to take a trip to somewhere like Bangkok this winter break. you'll find what you're looking for.

    [​IMG]

    Hunts, I hate to say it because i'd never do it myself, but maybe you should try online. It can't hurt. Don't go in to detail about how shitty your schedule is until you've met them and know that they like you. You might even meet someone in the city you're attending school in that will make the commute less of a pain. If they like you and you like them, you'll find a way to spend time together. She'll sleep-over or you'll sleep-over etc.

    Anyway, I know it's tough with a horrible schedule. I had to deal with that for three years. If I had a brutal commute on top of work and school it would have been even worse.
     


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    Oh and to comment on the online dating thing, what I hate about it is that online people can present themselves however they wish. Photoshop is used or photos are shown that don't present reality. Profiles are made-up or exaggerated, or deliberately crafted to attract a certain sort of guy/girl, and the resulting profiles don't reflect the actual person. Most people are very bad at conveying nuances of personality online, so you end up with a lot of false-positives and waste a lot of time. I've never met someone in person where I haven't known instantly whether i'd want to pursue them or not. It's also a lot easier to detect bs in person than online.

    Asch is also right about women being inundated with messages. However, most of these women quickly learn that most of the messages are from men seeking quick/cheap/easy sex, especially from the attractive ones, so I don't think that should be the deal-breaker of online vs. irl. I have a female friend that's doing the online dating thing right now and she can't stand it. I think that if a woman spends enough time on one of those sites she starts to weed out the ones that she thinks are just looking to play, unless that's also all she's looking for. My friend is deliberately going out with the less attractive guys at this point in the hopes that they're more suitable for a serious relationship, so it can work both ways.
     


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    maybe that's it

    Quoted out of context, but applicable.
     


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    Oh and to comment on the online dating thing, what I hate about it is that online people can present themselves however they wish. Photoshop is used or photos are shown that don't present reality. Profiles are made-up or exaggerated, or deliberately crafted to attract a certain sort of guy/girl, and the resulting profiles don't reflect the actual person. Most people are very bad at conveying nuances of personality online, so you end up with a lot of false-positives and waste a lot of time. I've never met someone in person where I haven't known instantly whether i'd want to pursue them or not. It's also a lot easier to detect bs in person than online.

    Asch is also right about women being inundated with messages. However, most of these women quickly learn that most of the messages are from men seeking quick/cheap/easy sex, especially from the attractive ones, so I don't think that should be the deal-breaker of online vs. irl. I have a female friend that's doing the online dating thing right now and she can't stand it. I think that if a woman spends enough time on one of those sites she starts to weed out the ones that she thinks are just looking to play, unless that's also all she's looking for. My friend is deliberately going out with the less attractive guys at this point in the hopes that they're more suitable for a serious relationship, so it can work both ways.


    So does it mean you have a chance with her?
     


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    1) Pool of 25-35 year old women: In some towns and cities, it is non-existent. If there are no white collar jobs that provide some kind of upward mobility, expect that the area will not have anyone from college age to probably 35 or so it seems. I've seen several places like this. It is always strange to see children 18 and under, and adults over 35ish, but no one in between. Anyone that can get an education will leave (brain drain effect), and anyone that can't will likely get married quickly.

    2) So, what should you do? Probably the hardest question. I guess it depends on what you are interested in, but you will have a hell of a time, no matter what, with your schedule. I suspect that online dating is really most effective in major urban areas. Otherwise the pool of people is too small.

    I've often wondered how effective those "singles nights" are that various clubs/restaurants/etc have. I've not gone to one, so I don't know.

    How about meetup.com? Several people I know have said it is a good way to meet people when they move to a new city. Again, I've not tried it, but it seems like it has potential.

    Or, do like most normal guys and go to a foreign country to meet women.
     


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    I think location makes a huge difference.

    The girls I know on the coasts, and in bigger cities stay single longer.
    Among girls I know from the midwest (smaller cities), I'd say somthing like 65% are married r in a serious, longer term, cohabitation situation by 26. Many of those who aren't are burned out club/party/bar girls.
     


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    ^^ don't forget internet porn
     


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