Asking out someone you don't know.

[phreak]

for the love of god plz no.

at least have her know your name first. she will want to know something about you to tell her friends, your name is a good start.

 

[Toiletduck]

blablablablablablabla

all talk and fail.

 

[ranker]

Well, I think its pretty obvious to separate the men from the boys (as well as the haters) after reading some of these suggestions.

OP, don't do it. Unless you've mastered cold approaches, aka game, then your chances for success aren't high. The fact that you've been letting your interest fester for some time has probably rocketed your approach anxiety to a point where your interest could subconsciously come out as being desperate or stalker-ish.

My suggestion for someone in your position:
Sit next to her one day in class. Start a conversation with a smile and better yet a witty comment/joke If you're one of the poor souls that isn't naturally charismatic, then keep a few topics handy to chit chat back and forth between her. If she's not giving you any eye contact, smiles, (or other indicators of interest), then slow down and continue to build rapport with her before you "ask her out." If she's interested or engaging you in conversation, then take it to the next step and have her join you for some activity, whether it be coffee, a study session, a shopping trip to help you pick out something, or whatever it is that you two seem to share common interest in.

If she's just not interested, cut your losses. There's plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[Star]

Unless you resemble Brad Pitts long lost twin sibbling, or have the confidence and the talk of James Bond; you are certain to fail if you think you can just ask her out 'cold call'. If you need to post to this forum then you already haven't got it. Your best bet is to find a way to introduce yourself or be introduced, and then once you are on first name basis signal interest and then make your move.

What are you going to give her that is going to be of interest to her?

The other thing to keep in mind is that as attractive as she might be other than some hot rooting and tooting, she might have a rotten personality or you may find to have far less in common than you think.

 

[origenesprit]

Jeez. It isn't that hard. Go up to her, strike up a conversation about ANYTHING, talk to her for five minutes, get her number, call her in a few days and invite her to chill.

 

[why]

Originally Posted by origenesprit

Jeez. It isn't that hard. Go up to her, strike up a conversation about ANYTHING, talk to her for five minutes, get her number, call her in a few days and invite her to chill.

 

[hendrix]

Originally Posted by why

why the facepalm?

 

[ccc123]

Do you know any of us???
- your talking pretty good here and willing to share your feelings with all of us.

A honest and genuine Hello has always worked for me. be sure to take some time with eye contact here (very important) - The next part " my name is_____________, we are in class together", then talk about the class, hard, easy, love it, hate it, interesting, boring, you must listen hard during this initial dialog she may say a little or a lot and you need to hear everything both said and unsaid this will help keep things moving and also clue you on how to take the conversation.

1. Suck it up
2. Give your self a chance
3. Don't be a stalker
4. Chat her up a bit
5. Make her laugh
6. Don't tell her how beautiful she is ( She's has heard it before)
7. A drink, coffee, hanging with some other friends is not a big deal - if she is into you she'll say yes.
8. Its the no part you don't want to hear (which is keeping you from saying anything)- That my young man is also a word you must be prepared for.
10. Confidence, humor, taste, some style, and a slightly unorthodox approach can take you a long way.

Good luck - and remember what you hopefully learned in kindergarten treat others the way you would like to be treated!

Most important thing here is to be as confident and relaxed as you can - easy going smooth, some humor and genuine conversation - watch some old Cary Grant movies and see how far a hello got him! trust me it works in real life too. Be a man - good luck!

 

[why]

Originally Posted by hendrix

why the facepalm?

'Hi, nice talking to you, can I get your number so I can bother you later about what I obviously want? We can chill just like our parents did.'

 

[Unbreakable]

Originally Posted by why

I don't see the problem with asking someone to do something with you. They're not obliged and can willingly reject the offer if you're a pimple-faced goon who first asks an Internet forum for a confidence boost.


+1

Also, how else do people meet women here? Do you need to know them for (x) amount of time before asking them to do something, no. It's what people do, strike up a conversation ever so often, don't seem pushy or shy. Be confident, nut up or shut up.

 

[hendrix]

Originally Posted by why

'Hi, nice talking to you, can I get your number so I can bother you later about what I obviously want? We can chill just like our parents did.'

SO you're talking for 5 minutes about whatever. Then the lecture starts. And afterwards you have to go to your next class, so you ask for her number.

She'll give you her number if a) she likes you b) she's single c) she's not stuck up.

THe only one of them you can do anything about is a). You have 5 minutes to leave a good impression. If she doesn't like you after 5 minutes of talking to you, chances are she never will.

 

[Hany]

For the don't tell her how beautiful she is:
-"yo, you are so beautiful, wow"- that's ****
-"hey beauty, what's up etc."- that's confident

 

[indesertum]

get her alone. drop the pants. use prosthetics if you don't have adequate equipment.

 

[Eason]

Originally Posted by Hany

For the don't tell her how beautiful she is:
-"yo, you are so beautiful, wow"- that's ****
-"hey beauty, what's up etc."- that's confident

hey beauty, what's up?

**** you

 

[indesertum]

Originally Posted by Eason

hey beauty, what's up?

**** you

"yes please"