I'm a "small guy" ( 5' 5", 130 pounds) but semi-big for my size (athletic). I'm not sure about my jacket lapel since I haven't received my MTM suit yet. I know the standard is 3.5" and I'm planning to buy some ties from TheTieBar to start off my collection. Do you think 3" or 3.5" would be more suitable? I have a 2.75" at its widest point and I wouldn't mind if it was a little bigger so I'm leaning towards 3". However, on TheTieBar, it lists 3" as skinny (though I don't think it really is). And I guess I'll go for silk. Is that what people normally use?