CDiorDenimFlow
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I figured I would see what advice you complete strangers have for me in my situation. Maybe some of you have been in the same shoes as me, and I would appreciate any sort of advice you can give me.
Two years ago, I started a new job in a sort of new city, Atlanta. I am from here originally but moved away after college and lived somewhere else for 8-9 years. My family lives here as well as friends I have known since middle school and before. I am generally a social person and am a funny person to be around, but for the first time in my life I have essentially been unable to make many new friends. The issue is that this is the first time in my life there is a lack of structure for making friends. When I was in school, there were always people my age to be around, and the jobs I had since college was always full of young people and I was able to meet people through work and make friends that way. In my current position, I work in a very small office of 4 people and everyone just does their own thing. Depending on business trends, sometimes I will be the only one in the office or it will be me and one other person. (Imagine sitting in an office for 8 straight hours where the only person you get to talk to is the mailman.) All of my colleagues are also on the older side as well. I also have to do a fair amount of travel (1-2 nights a week on the road) and there is a lot of alone time. So, there really isn't much social interaction to be gained from work.
Other than the social isolation, my job is great. I enjoy what I am doing (outside sales) and the pay is good and I have been successful. It is just sometimes lonesome at work, and then at home after because I don't really have a big network of people in this city. Most of my friends from way back are still great friends, but are at different stages in their life than me (ie married, kids, etc) and I don't really enjoy going out to bars much anymore.
Do you guys have any ideas ? I am not socially inept or anything like that.
Two years ago, I started a new job in a sort of new city, Atlanta. I am from here originally but moved away after college and lived somewhere else for 8-9 years. My family lives here as well as friends I have known since middle school and before. I am generally a social person and am a funny person to be around, but for the first time in my life I have essentially been unable to make many new friends. The issue is that this is the first time in my life there is a lack of structure for making friends. When I was in school, there were always people my age to be around, and the jobs I had since college was always full of young people and I was able to meet people through work and make friends that way. In my current position, I work in a very small office of 4 people and everyone just does their own thing. Depending on business trends, sometimes I will be the only one in the office or it will be me and one other person. (Imagine sitting in an office for 8 straight hours where the only person you get to talk to is the mailman.) All of my colleagues are also on the older side as well. I also have to do a fair amount of travel (1-2 nights a week on the road) and there is a lot of alone time. So, there really isn't much social interaction to be gained from work.
Other than the social isolation, my job is great. I enjoy what I am doing (outside sales) and the pay is good and I have been successful. It is just sometimes lonesome at work, and then at home after because I don't really have a big network of people in this city. Most of my friends from way back are still great friends, but are at different stages in their life than me (ie married, kids, etc) and I don't really enjoy going out to bars much anymore.
Do you guys have any ideas ? I am not socially inept or anything like that.
