Anniversaries?

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  1. etl

    etl Senior member

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    I've got some questions about anniversaries.

    I got married last year and I am quickly approaching my first anniversary. It dawned on me that i didn't have much context for what/where/how people celebrate this personal event.

    My wife and I are going to go away for the weekend. We'll dine out. I will get her flowers. Those things are somewhat obvious conclusions. We have had a rough financial year so this will be a big thing for us. I'd like to get her a gift too but i'm not sure what yet. I know clothes that she would love but i wonder if that's too functional and not romantic enough. Also, this is supposed to be our "paper" year.

    So, I thought I'd ask for some feedback from the membership here about how you perceive and perform anniversaries. Hopefully it'll give me some context and some ideas...

    Do you exchange gifts with your spouse? Do you follow the Emily Post guide for anniversaries (1st being "paper" themed, etc.)?

    Is this a more important holiday than Christmas? Than Valentine's Day? Do you celebrate it in a specific way other than those previous two or is it yet another reason to lavish attention on your mate?

    Do you make a big production of your anniversary or keep it intimate? Do you celebrate "more" on magic number years: 1,5,7,10,etc. or is each year as important?

    Thanks in advance for any feedback.
     
  2. runner-guy

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    I've been married for just over 3 years. My wife and I really don't exchange presents for our anniversaries. We usually just go away for a night or weekend or go out to dinner. We may do something more special for our 5 year or 10 year anniversary. Just talk to her about presents and what she wants to do. If you've been having some financial problems, she may not think gifts are a good idea.
     
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    Some good advice there, Runner-guy. Particularly the part about talking to her about what she wants to do.
     
  4. etl

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    bump. Anyone else care to share their ritual/s?
     
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    I've got some questions about anniversaries.

    I got married last year and I am quickly approaching my first anniversary. It dawned on me that i didn't have much context for what/where/how people celebrate this personal event.

    My wife and I are going to go away for the weekend. We'll dine out. I will get her flowers. Those things are somewhat obvious conclusions. We have had a rough financial year so this will be a big thing for us. I'd like to get her a gift too but i'm not sure what yet. I know clothes that she would love but i wonder if that's too functional and not romantic enough. Also, this is supposed to be our "paper" year.

    So, I thought I'd ask for some feedback from the membership here about how you perceive and perform anniversaries. Hopefully it'll give me some context and some ideas...

    Do you exchange gifts with your spouse? Do you follow the Emily Post guide for anniversaries (1st being "paper" themed, etc.)?

    Is this a more important holiday than Christmas? Than Valentine's Day? Do you celebrate it in a specific way other than those previous two or is it yet another reason to lavish attention on your mate?

    Do you make a big production of your anniversary or keep it intimate? Do you celebrate "more" on magic number years: 1,5,7,10,etc. or is each year as important?

    Thanks in advance for any feedback.


    My wife and I recently celebrated our first wedding anniversary back in May. We went out to the restaurant that I proposed to her at, and they did a lovely little celebration, welcome back type of thing for us, which was nice.

    As for gifts, we did the traditional paper themed first anniversary. My wife is the sort of lady that uses stationery, and typically uses whatever she can find in the store that will suit her fancy for the occasion. I got her some more personalised stationery than she typically uses, and wrote her a note summarising our first year of marriage together and how we had grown together during that time. She seemed to really like it, for whatever that's worth.

    Nothing will ever top Christmas in our house. We go all out, no holds barred, for Christmas. Anniversaries, birthdays, etc. are quieter for us, but we both look forward to celebrating Christmas so much, that I don't think we'd ever do it any other way.

    Hope that helps in some way.
     
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    surprise her with a wonderful dinner and whatever she likes to do in the evening.
     
  7. etl

    etl Senior member

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    Lovin' the additional feedback. thanks. Keep the stories coming.

    I wanted to make a note of something that my parents used to do. My parents, for the few years that they were married (divorced after 10 years together) used to buy something together each year. Usually it was art or something decorative for the house. Nothing expensive, as they didn't have much money. But I now have a few of the prints they purchased and there's a nice small sculpture that is in my living room.

    As my father is long since passed away and my mother has remarried twice since then, it's been nice having these small reminders of that relationship.

    I've talked to my wife about doing something like this and we may pick up the tradition. If not art work, then maybe something for the house. Also, i might get her the True Blood novels to fulfill the "paper" quotient of the event.
     
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    I need to bump this urgently..4th anniversary coming up soon. Anyone have good ideas, those of you that have been there??
     
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    You clearly have a very special lady... Sometimes you can try to create a nostalgia moment for you two on your special day.. This could be a lunch in a park, bike ride, trip to paris... Create a moment for her and you that always puts a smile on your face. Being your lovely wife as well, she will understand that money is tight and a toned down but perhaps special moment once again is all that is needed
     
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    I need to bump this urgently..4th anniversary coming up soon. Anyone have good ideas, those of you that have been there??

    Write her a list of the things you love about her and give it to her. Man, do they love that.
     

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