update here: I've been using the HTC aria on ATT for the past week and the battery life is kind of shitty. with no activity on the phone a fully charged battery will be at 30% by the end of the day! I was the most skeptical about the virtual keyboard, and while it's usable, I still think I need a physical keyboard. I love everything google and all of the features of Android, but I think that what I'm prioritizing most over everything in a phone is the ability to message easily and battery life. so I'm going to buy a cheap blackberry on craigslist and use that. I know it's a step backwards, but it's the best choice for me.