After how many dates should you let a girl pay for (half or all of) a date?

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  1. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I hate discussing money so I either pick up the bar/restaurant tab or someone does.

    Yeah, discussing and exchanging money is always a really annoying, stressful time.
     
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    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    Yeah, discussing and exchanging money is always a really annoying, stressful time.

    It's not stressful it merely exposes the vulgarity inherent in our society and it kills me.
     
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    It's not stressful it merely exposes the vulgarity inherent in our society and it kills me.

    I can not possibly stand to waste my life hearing people try to divide up a check. It hurts my soul.
     
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    It's not stressful it merely exposes the vulgarity inherent in our society and it kills me.
    So paying allows you to ignore an ugly truth and dishonestly seem like a gentleman? [​IMG]
     
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    Rambo Senior member

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    Its easy to not worry about the tab when you've got plenty of money. When you don't, that's when things start to get dicey.

    I like Rube's system. Elegant and concise.
     
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    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    So paying allows you to ignore an ugly truth and dishonestly seem like a gentleman? [​IMG]

    Hmm well there are some people that are very close to me and broke so they know I'll pay for everything but we don't discuss it and I know they aren't leeching, however in general it doesn't mean I necessarily pay just that I don't want to start a discussion on it just get it done quickly and quietly.
     
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    The chicks are already laughing in beforehand for all the great free meals they can pull out of a SF's wallet.
     
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    Hmm well there are some people that are very close to me and broke so they know I'll pay for everything but we don't discuss it and I know they aren't leeching, however in general it doesn't mean I necessarily pay just that I don't want to start a discussion on it just get it done quickly and quietly.

    When you make it to LA, I know a lovely little restaurant on Canon Drive that we should visit.
     
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    I can not possibly stand to waste my life hearing people try to divide up a check. It hurts my soul.

    Yup. The only kind of splitting up of a check I like is when it's done in half. None of this "oh, I had the chicken and you had the steak which is more expensive, so put down a few more dollars." Ugh. Just throw down two cards and split it down the middle, simple, easy, no mess.
     
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    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Hmm well there are some people that are very close to me and broke so they know I'll pay for everything but we don't discuss it and I know they aren't leeching, however in general it doesn't mean I necessarily pay just that I don't want to start a discussion on it just get it done quickly and quietly.

    How does this relate to the vulgarity inherent in our society? Like I said, it is just annoying so if you just pay it gets it over with no questions asked.
     
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    Yeah, discussing and exchanging money is always a really annoying, stressful time.

    You're talking about prostitution, right?
     
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    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    You're talking about prostitution, right?

    Yes, of course.
     
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    How does this relate to the vulgarity inherent in our society? Like I said, it is just annoying so if you just pay it gets it over with no questions asked.

    I am torn between my dislike of being a consumer and my refusal of being citizen. Individuation through the segment of one doesn't feel like a solution.
     
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    itsstillmatt The Liberator Dubiously Honored

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    I hate discussing money so I either pick up the bar/restaurant tab or someone does.
    I am the same way. Discussing money in a social situation makes my skin crawl.
     
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    have always paid, i kind of half figured that women have so many other expenses going into a night than men. now im married so its a bit academic.
    on occasions like my birthday my wife might pay and i always feel so awkward standing behind her at the counter. very emasculating.

    the real tricky situation is when we go out with her parents - her dad refuses to ever accept anyone else picking up the bill
     

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