Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Craiger, Dec 3, 2012.
Now that's some damned good advice.
This. Put your foot down man. Lead. Women like that.
Explain why you want to wear what you do, and maybe show her a picture of the look that you're going for. If she still thinks that you'll "embarrass her," then don't wear it or just don't go. Stop being a dummy. It's not the end of the world, and you have a lot more to gain than to lose. A lot of the guys here don't have gf's/wives (obviously), so don't defer to them for matters like this one. They're playing "man amongst men" on the internet while you really have a woman.
during my swinging single days, I go with whatever I want to wear. Now that I'm married, nothing has change....wear what you want dog..woof woof
I was being sarcastic...i knew what you meant
It depends if she is a keeper....
This whole thread should have been over with the first reply. Dont let your woman dress you, you are a grown man.
Minor point: Alden Indys do look like Ronald McDonald shoes.
Tell her it will embarrass you to wear what she wants.
Was thinking of some politically correct sorta answer here and then thought what would I do in this situation? Wear what the hell I like that's what I would do and if she's that bothered she knows the way to the exit !!!!! ! End of !!
This is as bad as when Im at work every grown association man has to "ask" if they can buy some shoes. At least with my gf we've made it pretty clear. I don't tell her how to dress and she doesn't tell me. Its actually funny because she says its more attractive that i can dress myself. And that does't mean she sometimes dislikes what i wear.
A grown man should dress himself, or have a valet do it. That being said, it wouldn't be a good idea to make a massive fuss over this. She does, after all, control the lady-bits in your relationship.
1) you're a grown man, you should be allowed to dress yourself
2) if she ever threatens to be embarrassed by you, to me this is kind of red flag manipulative non-keeper stuff, but obviously that part is up to you
3) objectively, your choices are more correct for black tie, and in my opinion as well as the vast majority of members here, much more elegant
But as to what to say to her, I'd go with something like -
I'm sorry you don't enjoy what I've chosen to wear as much as I do. But there's no reason to be embarrassed - if you take a look at blacktieguide.com, you'll see that everything I'm wearing is very classic black tie. For both this reason and the fact that I am so awesome, I hope that you always feel as proud and lucky to be with me as I feel to be with you.
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