hi! i've been following some threads on this forum that i thought would get my problem covered up but as none of them did, i opened a new one. i've meet this wonderful, gorgeous and shy girl some time ago and i realised that we had a lot in common so i decided to give her a try and ask her out. she was 18 and never had a boyfriend, nor any male friend (don't ask me why, I'm still trying to figure this one out). she seemed really nice, friendly and overall, waiting be invited. so i invited her a couple of times out and she declined. maybe foolishly, i insisted and one day she accepted so i walked with her to a coffee shop near her place and we talked for four hours straight. then i walked her to some of her relatives' place (she had to dine there), kissed her goodbye and went out with some friends. later that night, she sent me an message thanking me for the afternoon and saying she loved the time we had spent together. not bad eh? for the following months we studied together and some more coffee but it didn't get pass that then the holidays came in and we got split for two weeks. at that time i realised she was slipping away from me. i never understood why. i knew she was the kind of person who loved letters so i wrote her one from where i was spending my Holiday time, inviting her to go somewhere with me the following week. she sent me message declining and explaining why she couldn't and i felt a total wuss. when the holidays ended, i found her a different person. at least to me: she was kinda distant and somewhat cold. not hostile or anything but definitely not caring as she used to be. we went out one last time. after that i talked to her a couple of times to ask her out but she always declined. one day, i did the stupidest thing in my whole damn life and told her i loved her. never had done that before and never will do again. i just don't know what i was thinking. i know this is the one thing we cant do but i went stupid and did it. don't mock at me because of this. if I'm writing this it's because i am well aware of the stupidity of my act. of course our "relationship" quickly declined after that: we stopped talking to each other and we only had one eye contact after that, which she ended. When we talked she seemed almost hostile. After this I dated other girls (two of them truly spectacular) but no one i felt so attracted or attached to. It just felt so right with her.. Anyway, for a month or so i didn't ear of her or had any real contact with her until two days ago we accidentally meet in the street and we had the most casual short talk ever. I felt no anger in her, i felt no negative feeling towards me and she looked into my eyes again. i didn't see this as a promising event as to getting her back is concerned but.. who knows I tried to forget her, i really did. but I'll try to start it over with her. I know i messed big time with this one: i was too slow and acted as if she was different only because she was so inexperienced and shy. it's just that i don't know what to do now. i don't even know if she's into relationships or not. so right now i'm devising a battle plan to get her to be my dame. what do you people suggest? any input is appreciated. thank you for your time and congrats on the forum. it's truly helpful.