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Advice Needed- Funeral Attire

MLIW

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Morning,

Next week I have my grandmothers funeral, not the family obviously want us to look smart but not wearing all black, as she wouldn't have wanted that...
I am planning on wearing a very dark blue suit with medium thick slightly under one inch pinstripes.
Now I am not entirely sure what style tie to wear, or what colour would look great with dark blue same goes for shirts.

So any advice needed would be great, equally would a top pocket handkerchief be suitable? Closest I could come to the suit I have

any advice gratefully received!
 

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Not to be a dick, but this seems rather silly to me. Do you think people at a funeral are focused on what others are wearing? Also, if you can't match a tie with a dark suit, I'm surprised you can tie your own shoes.
 

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I dont think its a silly question considering all the funerals I have been to in the past have been to a dress code of all black?! And given the fact that she did not want all black, it would leave most people a bit clueless? And in dressing smartly and appropriately i am paying respect???? Generally speaking as in the job I do I dont wear a suit... any decent advice would be better
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I wore navy pinstripes, brown shoes and paul smith stripey socks to my Gramps memorial dinner, because he would have gotten a kick out of it.

You have to do what works for you.
 

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Sorry for your loss. I'd wear a medium blue or burgundy tie with a white shirt. To me, this would not be too subdued, yet respectful.
 

MLIW

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Thanks for the advice much appreciated...

I am thinking of going for the burgundy possibly with just a plain white shirt?
And yes my paul smith socks will also be making an outing!
 

KObalto

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Originally Posted by MLIW
medium thick slightly under one inch pinstripes.
Now I am not entirely sure what style tie to wear, or what colour would look great with dark blue


Stripes that wide are not pinstripes. Burgundy tie with white shirt sounds fine.
 

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I've been to a passel of funerals and memorial services in recent years--one of the aspects of getting old yourself. Anything that could be considered passable conservative business dress would render you far better clad than the vast majority of mourners at the funerals I've attended.
 

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Originally Posted by suited
Not to be a dick, but this seems rather silly to me. Do you think people at a funeral are focused on what others are wearing? Also, if you can't match a tie with a dark suit, I'm surprised you can tie your own shoes.

Ahhh, the famous first words of some who is just about to 'be a dick'. If you don't have advice, why respond to the OP?
 

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Originally Posted by MLIW
So any advice needed would be great, equally would a top pocket handkerchief be suitable?

I wouldn't wear a pocketsquare to a funeral.
 

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Sorry for your loss. Whatever you wear keep it pretty bland. When I go to funerals I try not wear anything that will make me look like a peacock.
 

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We are all sorry for your loss ...

Originally Posted by suited
Not to be a dick, but ...
... well, almost all of us are sorry for your loss, apparently.
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Originally Posted by MLIW
I dont think its a silly question considering all the funerals I have been to in the past have been to a dress code of all black?! And given the fact that she did not want all black, it would leave most people a bit clueless? And in dressing smartly and appropriately i am paying respect????
Generally speaking as in the job I do I dont wear a suit...
any decent advice would be better
wink.gif


Exactly.

In the old days, there was a certain rule of thumb about wearing black to funerals, but nowadays any dark muted colour (gray, navy) will work just fine, although I'd stay away from earth tones. You may want to include a bit of black (tie? pocket square?) as a nod to the 'mourning' traditional clothes, although only if it fits with the family's "let's do what she would have wanted" theme.
 

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black or dark blue navy is usually the way to go at a funeral.
God bless.
 

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