Hello. This is my first post on the sf and I must say my decision to join is based wholeheartedly on the calibre of its members. In that spirit, this thread is really a question directed to you (members of sf). I wish for you to help me - if that is not too much to ask. Some background: I undertook several scientific subjects throughout highschool, relinquishing all "humanities" in the final two years with the aim of getting into Oxbridge (Oxford and Cambridge - I wish to retain my anonymity). I was successful and read Mathematics. Perhaps I should have predicted the next three years involved the sole devotion to bland texts coupled with non challenging and rarely stimulating conversation. It dawned on me that almost six years of science and mathematics had created a void in a particularly important aspect of my life. My ability to be charming, effectively communicate, clearly articulate and effortlessly convince was simply non existent. I wish to learn or recover such skills and am asking - in all generality - how one might do such a thing. I spend time on the misc (a section on a bodybuilding site) as I (currently) undertake training for Olympic lifting and stumbled there. It is possibly having negative effects on me however as the language structure and memes severely lower the acceptable level of written text. I also wish to inquire if this is minor or major and will exposure to poor quality material negatively impact me in the long term? Thankyou kindly.