In many ways that is the problem when one partner works outside the home and one stays home. The working outside the home partner can calls in sick, gets vacation and has time away from their job. The one who stays at home does not have such luxuries. Non sequitur. If the OP stays at home for a day he can see exactly how her time is being spent and determine if she really doesn't have time to get everything done, or if she's just taking advantage of the situation.