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Your experience losing the Virginity

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by SC Widders, Jan 20, 2010.

  1. milosz

    milosz Well-Known Member

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    She was a friend who was a couple of years older, on top, I lasted all of like two minutes. Basically was immobile after busting and she stayed on too long... and on the dismount the condom went with her. No OTC Plan B then, just crossed our fingers and hoped.
     
  2. SC Widders

    SC Widders Well-Known Member

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    You are over thinking this. Don't worry about it, afterwards you will wonder why you worried.

    Don't post on the internet about it, just go and do it.


    I guess I am overthinking it! I'm just worried about what she will think and if it will be as pleasurable for me pending on how long I can stay in the ring[​IMG]

    If you wear a fake mustache, you'll appear much older and, thus, more experienced. She'll be more at ease. Now, don't get anything ridiculous like a handlebar, but don't go pencil either. Think Magnum PI. Next, oil your bod. You want the muscles to be highlighted in the light and glisten. Please forego the Ax Body Spray...it will sting her eyes and mouth. Irish Spring soap is your friend.

    Haha, Ax body spray always works on the girls[​IMG]

    I'm surprised that conne isn't here offering advice. He recently lost his virginity. It wasn't to a woman, but still...

    Hopefully your joking lmao! Sounds like a knowledgeable guy since everyone is refering to him.

    I hope I'm not too late: [​IMG]

    Ask her if she wants to tape the magical moment to share for years to come with you and millions of your closest friends. [​IMG]


    No, I wouldn't do that and neither would she.... not all girls these days are idiots!

    If you feel you're going to nut too soon:

    1.) Reach behind, grasp your bag, and pull firmly downward with a quarter-turn (doesn't matter which direction)

    OR

    2.) Think of a massive pile of rotting garbage with a putrefying cat lying on top.

    Work for me every time.


    Heard of the first recomendation, I'll keep that in mind when I'm wacking off next time.... j/k

    I'm so glad you're taking the 1st step... it won't be long till you're gonna start threads asking about atm, dirty sanchez, buttsechs, pearl necklaces, washing spooge out of her hair, bukkake, fun with fleshlight, etc.....

    as for your questions:

    1. How long does it generally last?

    quicker than what she expected.

    2. Did you have any idea of what you were doing?

    yes, because I was an experienced porn viewer long before the 1st deed. I knew I have to do a "porn ending" which was a surprise for her!

    3. What are some techniqes you would recommend for the most pleasurable experiance possible for both people?

    ladies always fakes it, what matters is you get your rocks off then sleep it off immediately afterwards.


    Ummm, thanks for the effortless comment [​IMG]

    Watch a lot of porn for tips and pointers. Take notes. Those guys are pros. The most important thing is where you blow your wad. Face, tits, hair --those are the targets in descending order of preference. Extra points if you can put it in her mouth after it was in her bum. Good luck.

    Definitely not dude, make sure you wear a bag. In fact, wrap your rascal two times. The last thing you want is some of your precious bodily fluids to wind up inside her because then she'll pop out a kid and your life will be over.

    I'm definently not trying to do this porn style, and I'm absolutely not trying to have a kid at 17. Harvey, thanks for that input although its common sense.

    watch porn for starter? at least you will know where to put in... oh wait, maybe not, they put in everywhere these days...

    Can you find the 4th hole to poke it in[​IMG]
     
  3. SField

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    Ok this is real advice. Half the people in this thread making fun of you are probably virgins themselves so fuck them.

    - I totally agree with Piobaire. I'd jack in in the morning and a couple hours before you go.

    - If you've never put on a condom before, for fuck sake practice a few times because that can be the biggest mood/boner killer in the world.

    - The first time I had sex I came in like 40 seconds. That's also because I was young, completely unexperienced, and had started masturbating not super long before that. If you don't want to be a complete embarrassment, you need a lot of foreplay. Keep it simple... make gentle circles on her vajayjay with the palm side of your middle and ring fingers. Insert only a little later once she's really wet. If you want to have any hope in fuck of making her cum, you'll have to do a lot of foreplay. I don't think you should try to go down on her your first time.

    - Once it's time for you to use your peepee, don't go right in. Definitely tease the outer parts of her girlyness for at least a few seconds. This will give you an idea of your own limits. Once you start fucking her, don't go too fast. I'd say about 60 beats a minute, so obviously once a second. That's not too fast and it's not weirdly slow and overly romantic. You aren't good enough for that most likely. Focus on long, smooth thrusts beginning from the back of your shoulders to your lower back. It will help you with your rhythm... consistency generally works, don't change your tempo too often. You can really ruin a woman's orgasm by speeding up or slowing down when she gets in the zone.

    - If you haven't gotten good at knowing when you're going to cum from masturbation, get good at that now. When you're fucking her and you feel like you're going to blow (in like 30 seconds, not at the actual beginning of the funny feeling because then you're fucked), pull out and finger her and make out with her/play with tits. For your own sake and hers, I wouldn't actually cum until maybe the third time you'd be able to. Let the feeling go away and then go back in so you're recharged for a few minutes.

    Other than that it's really up to you. If you care about the girl a lot then you should make it about her, she should feel like she isn't just a substitution for your hand. In general you should make eye contact often and kiss her etc... otherwise it just looks like she's your cum dumpster.

    Have fun and for fuck sake put two fingers at the base of your dick where the edge of the condom is when you pull out so you don't get any man juice in her. All your motions should be graceful and smooth, never jerky. Don't play with her tits like they're speed bags and don't grab too much... think of caressing first, and you can slap her ass the next time you get laid.
     
  4. ama

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    This is like a retarded version of MillionaireTeacher. Never knew that was possible.
     
  5. DNW

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    +1 to what's been said. Also, please poast pics so we know it's real (but only if she's 18+, please).

    Good luck.
     
  6. SC Widders

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    Ok this is real advice. Half the people in this thread making fun of you are probably virgins themselves so fuck them.

    - I totally agree with Piobaire. I'd jack in in the morning and a couple hours before you go.

    - If you've never put on a condom before, for fuck sake practice a few times because that can be the biggest mood/boner killer in the world.

    - The first time I had sex I came in like 40 seconds. That's also because I was young, completely unexperienced, and had started masturbating not super long before that. If you don't want to be a complete embarrassment, you need a lot of foreplay. Keep it simple... make gentle circles on her vajayjay with the palm side of your middle and ring fingers. Insert only a little later once she's really wet. If you want to have any hope in fuck of making her cum, you'll have to do a lot of foreplay. I don't think you should try to go down on her your first time.

    - Once it's time for you to use your peepee, don't go right in. Definitely tease the outer parts of her girlyness for at least a few seconds. This will give you an idea of your own limits. Once you start fucking her, don't go too fast. I'd say about 60 beats a minute, so obviously once a second. That's not too fast and it's not weirdly slow and overly romantic. You aren't good enough for that most likely. Focus on long, smooth thrusts beginning from the back of your shoulders to your lower back. It will help you with your rhythm... consistency generally works, don't change your tempo too often. You can really ruin a woman's orgasm by speeding up or slowing down when she gets in the zone.

    - If you haven't gotten good at knowing when you're going to cum from masturbation, get good at that now. When you're fucking her and you feel like you're going to blow (in like 30 seconds, not at the actual beginning of the funny feeling because then you're fucked), pull out and finger her and make out with her/play with tits. For your own sake and hers, I wouldn't actually cum until maybe the third time you'd be able to. Let the feeling go away and then go back in so you're recharged for a few minutes.

    Other than that it's really up to you. If you care about the girl a lot then you should make it about her, she should feel like she isn't just a substitution for your hand. In general you should make eye contact often and kiss her etc... otherwise it just looks like she's your cum dumpster.

    Have fun and for fuck sake put two fingers at the base of your dick where the edge of the condom is when you pull out so you don't get any man juice in her. All your motions should be graceful and smooth, never jerky. Don't play with her tits like they're speed bags and don't grab too much... think of caressing first, and you can slap her ass the next time you get laid.


    Finally, someone with EXACTLY the knowledge/experiance I was asking for. Thank you for the input and advice, all of which is greatly appreciated and will be remembered. She's not a cum dumpster lol, but I really do have feelings for her and thats why I want this experiance to be great for me and her as well. Thanks once again [​IMG]
     
  7. dl20

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    Also, if you feel yourself going to early flip her over and get her in a new position. Use the time in between to think about your grandparents.

    dl
     
  8. dl20

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    How old r u neways?

    dl
     
  9. SField

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    Also, if you feel yourself going to early flip her over and get her in a new position. Use the time in between to think about your grandparents.

    dl


    wouldn't recommend doggie style for first time.
     
  10. kwilkinson

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    wouldn't recommend doggie style for first time.

    +1. How mny people actually switch posit on the first time? For me, it was missionary for all 39 seconds.
     
  11. DNW

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    wouldn't recommend doggie style for first time.

    +1. Also hoisting her up against the wall isn't as easy as it looks. One slip and...[​IMG]

    Cowgirl and reversed cowgirl ftw! [​IMG]
     
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  13. milosz

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    This goes for all activities. If she starts to get really into a movement, whether it's during penetration, oral, fingerbanging, whatever, keep at it until she gives you some kind of signal to stop (shifts her body, whatever).

    Even if you jack it twice during the day, you're not going to last long. That's okay. You're, what, 16-17? You'll be ready to go again in 20 minutes. And in another 20 after that. The worst thing you can do is start worrying about how long you can hold out - that makes the experience less pleasurable for both of you, and however long you think is normal for men (via porn or dudes talking or whatever) is probably several minutes longer than reality.
     
  14. willpower

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    Practice putting on a condom. Go through a whole box by yourself before you hop in the sack. It's a distracting part of the sex process and the better you are at rolling one on, the less you'll stress out about it.
     
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    This is ImageWIS's territory.

    El Gay, keep the story about the first time you sodomized another man to yourself.
     
  16. milosz

    milosz Well-Known Member

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    Do y'all really have that much trouble with the raincoat?

    Not that important for your first time, but regular Trojans suck, do not buy them. There are (more expensive) condom like the Avanti Bare and a super-thin Durex that feel much better for both people. Don't believe that ribbed for her pleasure shit, either.
     
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    oh, and DATY - one way to last longer and get bonus points.
     
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    Haha, Ax body spray always works on the girls[​IMG]


    Then rumor must have gotten around that you're hung like a horse, because that shit stinks. Period.
     
  19. Thomas

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    wouldn't recommend doggie style for first time.

    Agree there, unless she instigates. Story to follow shortly.

    +1. How mny people actually switch posit on the first time? For me, it was missionary for all 39 seconds.

    Ummm, right here. She was on top, then I was on top, then I was behind her, then we stood up. Then again, I couldn't finish that first time. I did the second time, later that night.

    So, OP, I was in a similar situation as you many years ago, my gf at the time was experienced, and a good deal more so than I. As we'd gotten to know each other, but before we did the nasty, she occasionally would question me and regale me with stories of her previous (deceased) lover. One time she told me of being handcuffed by her bf, but they were both drunk and he lost the key so he had to drop her at home and she hid from her parents until he produced the key the next morning. Yeah, that was rather daunting; the best I could come up with was maybe tying a few bow ties together and using those to restrain her: not quite the same.

    But you know something? I still got laid, and it was still good, and though it ended like most relationships do at that age, we still talk once in a while and bear no bad feelings.

    Then rumor must have gotten around that you're hung like a horse, because that shit stinks. Period.

    I confiscated the sprays from our boy and replaced them with a few select Carons and Guerlains.
     
  20. Stu

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    Ok, it should be interesting to hear what others will say, but we need actual input first.... I mean some real comments which address the original post lmao!



    Um, I know that but what exactly should be expected for first timers..


    He he he. You said INPUT.
     

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