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What differentiates a friend from an acquaintance?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Rambo, Jul 26, 2010.

  1. Rambo

    Rambo Well-Known Member

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    I've been struggling with this one lately. What do you guys think it is?
     
  2. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Well-Known Member

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    Whether you give a shit about them or not?

    For instance, friend- my buddy jesse. he has a shitty day, I feel bad for him
    Acquaintance- Conne. He has a shitty day, I rejoice.
     
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  3. MetroStyles

    MetroStyles Well-Known Member

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    A friend is someone you would consider calling up just to see how they're doing.
     
  4. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Well-Known Member

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    A friend is someone you would consider calling up just to see how they're doing.

    Guess that makes us friends then. [​IMG]
     
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    spb_lady Well-Known Member

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    I think silence is a good indicator.

    If you have a lot of fun together - great. It's about acquaintance.
    If you can be silent together and both feel comfortable, then you're friends.
     
  6. Hombre Secreto

    Hombre Secreto Well-Known Member

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    I don't think you can really answer this. It's just a feeling you have, and you really can't describe it because real friendship is pretty powerful. I guess if I must describe it... a real friend is like a sibling to you.
     
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    I think silence is a good indicator.

    If you have a lot of fun together - great. It's about acquaintance.
    If you can be silent together and both feel comfortable, then you're friends.


    Sounds like a Russian thing.
     
  8. Reggs

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    A friend is someone you want to see. An acquaintance is someone you tolerate seeing.
     
  9. Rambo

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    Sounds like a Russian thing.
    I believe that you're confusing being "silent" with being "hammered on vodka".
     
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    I believe that you're confusing being "silent" with being "hammered on vodka".

    That's just the thing, when I'm 'hammered on vodka' I'm usually not silent. Must be the Anglo in me.
     
  11. spb_lady

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    That's just the thing, when I'm 'hammered on vodka' I'm usually not silent.

    i never tried vodka [​IMG]
     
  12. ektaylor

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    i never tried vodka [​IMG]

    We call it 'martini' here. Hipster thing, mostly.
     
  13. holymadness

    holymadness Well-Known Member

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    I would never go out of my way to spend time with an acquaintance. I see them at work, at the gym, at parties where we have mutual friends, e.g. places where I was planning to be anyway.

    I make an effort to keep in touch with my friends and see them regularly, when possible.
     
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    I don't think you can really answer this. It's just a feeling you have, and you really can't describe it because real friendship is pretty powerful. I guess if I must describe it... a real friend is like a sibling to you.

    No.
     
  15. intent

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    Most people, especially in the Facebook age, throw around the term "friend" too loosely. You can have a ton of acquaintances and be friendly with them, but you only have a handful of friends.
     
  16. edinatlanta

    edinatlanta Well-Known Member

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    Closeness.

    I'd even wager to say there is a difference between friends and "friends". I think about the people I am friendly with, we know a little bit about each other, but there isn't a sort of intimacy, for lack of a better word.

    My acquaintances are people I see at shit but know nothing about me.
     
  17. Teacher

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    Once, I heard a rough definition from some therapist in the media: if you normally see a person in a single context (work, school, etc.), then it's probably an acquaintance. If you often see the person in two or more settings -- at least one of which is intentional (i.e.: you make plans) -- then it's a friend. Sounds like a pretty good guideline to me.
     
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    I will do anything for a friend, and I expect a friend to do the same for me. An acquaintance not so much.
     
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    Whether you give a shit about them or not?

    For instance, friend- my buddy jesse. he has a shitty day, I feel bad for him
    Acquaintance- Conne. He has a shitty day, I rejoice.


    I think that the greek ideal of friendship was if you wished for their "good" or "benifit" (sorry, translating from translated here). if you activly wish them well, you are their friend.
     
  20. Joe Cool

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    If you can't tell the difference by now all the advice in the world isn't gonna help.
     

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