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wearing a suit w/ no tie to a wedding?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by gqcao, Jun 18, 2006.

  1. Sator

    Sator Well-Known Member

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    I agree. Go with the tie.

    This business of trying to get away with as sloppy a look as you can possibly get away for some sort of alleged 'coolness' has got to the point that everybody looks so sloppy that dressing down fails to make any statement.

    Dress to kill. Learn how to wear a suit complete with the tie and pocket square. That definitely will make a statement that will set you apart from a crowd of people who look totally awkward in suits because they only wear them when forced to at weddings and funerals.
     
  2. spookykl

    spookykl New Member

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    Hey guys,

    I'm going to a wedding and was thinking of going wearing a suit with no tie, but with pocket square (and probably the first button of my shirt unbuttoned - the neck button that is). What do you guys think? Is that ok?

    It's going to be held at a church and the family is pretty religious - Christian. There will be about 400 people at the ceremony and then, the dinner/reception.

    Please let me know soon! Coming up this weekend. Thanks!
     
  3. Style Pontifex

    Style Pontifex Well-Known Member

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    You can never be over-dressed, only under-dressed.

    Disagree, but yeah...wear a tie if it's anything other than a casual wedding.
     
  4. bafield

    bafield Well-Known Member

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    If they're getting married in Cancun and the reception is at the poolside bar, then don't wear a tie. Otherwise, wear one! I think that people who show up to formal events under dressed are doucy...if that's a word!
     
  5. mrf555

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    Big no-no.

    Wear the tie.
     
  6. lfl

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    wear a tie definitely
     
  7. JayJay

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    I'd wear a tie unless it was announced as a very casual wedding.
     
  8. Mr. Caber

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    It may be a generational thing. In my own humble opinion, suits look better without ties. I have always felt that most men wearing ties look pinched and uncomfortable. But a good, well fitted suit looks smart, simple and sophisticated, while the open V shape of the (tieless) collar adds a dash of flair and draws attention to your face.
    Use your own best judgment. I don't think not wearing a tie will be taken as anything other than your own style preference, with which some people will always find fault.
     
  9. Canal Directo

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    It may be a generational thing. In my own humble opinion, suits look better without ties. I have always felt that most men wearing ties look pinched and uncomfortable. But a good, well fitted suit looks smart, simple and sophisticated, while the open V shape of the (tieless) collar adds a dash of flair and draws attention to your face.
    Use your own best judgment. I don't think not wearing a tie will be taken as anything other than your own style preference, with which some people will always find fault.



    The answer was posted 3 years ago


    Your statement reminds me of something that Russell Smith wrote in his recent book Men's Style: The Thinking Man's Guide to Dress: It's not always about you. You dress appropriately for certain occasions to show respect for other people. If that's too much of an imposition, stay home.

    And a suit always looks better with a tie!
     
  10. courty

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    A suit without a tie looks terrible. It does not even look casual - more like the wearer was out all night after work and lost his tie somewhere.
     
  11. teddieriley

    teddieriley Well-Known Member

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    While I think wearing a tie is appropriate and preferable, I do not think going without one with a suit is necessarily "disrespectful," "douchey" or "wrong," given the context. The wedding is not about you, it's about the bride and groom, and I highly doubt you not wearing a tie is going to garner you more attention than you deserve. If you don't feel like wearing a tie, but you've put yourself together nicely all things considered, then don't wear the tie. Having been to around 20 of these functions with people more or less in my age group, I've encountered far worse infractions than not wearing a tie.

    I would wear one in any event.
     
  12. HomerJ

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  13. intent

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    The impression that ties are stuffy comes from the fact that most men wear shirt collars that are too tight on them. They either don't get remeasured since they were 16, or they don't take into account the eventual shrinkage of the shirt.

    Real men wear ties. Hollywood is an exception in style, because they're more about fashion. Also, because they're fit, handsome (or beautiful), and popular they can wear a rag and still look better than you.
     
  14. Mr. Caber

    Mr. Caber Well-Known Member

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    GQ Derek steez

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    Touche.
     
  15. intent

    intent Well-Known Member

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    Touche.
    DouchÃ[​IMG].
     
  16. Mild Mannered

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    Wear the tie. Maybe later in the evening at the reception when the sun goes down (if applicable) you could loosen the tie, but really, give your very best for the entire day for your friends wedding.
     
  17. binge

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    Put the tie 'round your waist, uzip the fly, and let it fly.
     
  18. gateslion

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    I have to disagree here. Its not a sloppy look. It can be a very good look, and very flattering for an athletic build. The problem is so many guys do it poorly, and make it look sloppy. Done well: [​IMG] [​IMG] Done pitifully wrong [​IMG] Clooney - RIGHT Pitt - WRONG WRONG WRONG! [​IMG]
     
  19. Vimmo

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    For a wedding, I think it's important. It's not just for your sake, but the bride & groom as well as the guests are all expecting people to dress up. And for those photos which will last a lifetime, you will want to make a positive lasting impression after the wedding ends.
     

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