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Tips for building and exuding confidence

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by merkur, Jan 22, 2010.

  1. merkur

    merkur Well-Known Member

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  2. Runningman411

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    Achieve something that you are proud of, whether it be a nice career, sports achievement or a nice build. Confidence is very hard to fake and you'll appear to be a douchebag if you're faking it.
     
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    Finding a mentor is a good start. I have an uncle who is successful in business and always had beautiful women around him. He was a good person to learn from.
     
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    when speaking publicly -know your subject inside and out. Takes the edge off, and a more relaxed delivery is a more confident delivery. This has been my experience.
     
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    know your subject inside and out.

    +1

    From a purely physical perspective, work out and maintain correct posture. This in addition to designprofessor's comment should cover you 95% of the time.
     
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    From a psychological perspective, qualify other people before they qualify you: If you see a cute girl, ask yourself "Why should I like her?" instead of "why should she like me?"

    Basically shift the focus off you, onto them, to prevent yourself from being too self-conscious or wondering what they think of you.

    I also heard "Be interested rather than interesting" meaning ask questions, find out what makes someone tick, and reinforce that you're listening by rephrasing what the person just told you and saying it back to them. Remember, people love to talk about themselves. Get them talking and listen well, and that again shifts the spotlight off you.

    Also like others have said, have a passion or something you do well. Doesn't have to be fancy, try something simple like knowing how to pick a wine, grill a perfect steak, know some great little restaurants in your city, etc. Basically have something to share.

    Are you looking for confidence in general, or with women, etc? What exactly are you insecure about? Personally I'm insecure about my posture for example, so I try and work out to target my posture, and consciously remember to correct it often.
     
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    Realize what a fucking badass you are.
     
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    Make sure you look good, smell good, stand good, and talk good.
     
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    Make sure you look good, smell good, stand good, and talk good.
    ... and are good at what you're doing.
     
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    ...and talk good.

    QFI
     
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    Samuel L. Jackson beer

    It'll get you drunk

    You'll be fucking fat chicks in no time

    Then move on up
     
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    Two words: ass pennies.
     
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    Minimize the bad breath!
     
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    There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know that you're money and that you want to party.
     
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    Change what you can't love about yourself, but always love what you can't change.
     
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    I don`t know the answer to the question, but I do know it has nothing to do with working out. Nothing wrong with working out, but the gym is full of insecurity.
     
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    I don`t know the answer to the question, but I do know it has nothing to do with working out. Nothing wrong with working out, but the gym is full of insecurity.

    Correction: the gym is FUELED BY insecurity.
     
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    Wear nice shoes.
     
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    Baby, you're so money and you don't even know it.
     

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