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Time to yourself when married or living with a SO

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by patrickBOOTH, Aug 15, 2012.

  1. curzon

    curzon Well-Known Member

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    Don't wait to tell her that you will do one vacation a year together, and a second one separately. A week or two per year to be completely selfish and focus exclusively on oneself is a good thing. Once you have kids it's highly unlikely you'll ever have the opportunity to do so... unless you have nannies and later send the kids away to school.
     
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  2. patrickBOOTH

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    She's pissed that I'd rather do zero vacations a year.
     
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    Pot, meet Kettle..
     
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    shit can be expensive.


    oh the things I could buy myself instead....
     
  6. patrickBOOTH

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    I just don't desire to travel all that much. I like to, but I don't need several excursions per year. I find traveling much more stressful than going to work to be honest. I find a lot of peace in habitual behavior, it leaves my mind to think about more important things.
     
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    different strokes....
     
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    I'm with you, man. I don't have wanderlust, and I've told my wife several times that I do not need to "see the world" to have a fulfilled life. and frankly, if it was up to me I'd rather go the bay area for the umpteenth time and hang out with my sibling and in-law and have good beer and great meals than see old castles, cathedrals and david's tiny dick. I am lucky though, that the wife has a gay cousin she's close to that loves to travel.
     
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    I used to feel the same way, heck, I didn't even have a passport until last year. But once I started to travel my mind was changed. I think it's all about remembering that when you travel for pleasure it should be just that. A pleasurable experience. If you try to see everything and wear yourself out doing so, you won't enjoy it.
     
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    That stress comes from trying to organize everything to please your partner. But when you walk away from all responsibilities and obligations for a week or two (not even a phone call or email) it's fantastic.
     
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    For me not to walk away from phone calls and emails is irresponsible for the position I am in in my department.

    I am glad it isn't just me though. I actually have a ton of vacation that I tried to sell back to the company, but they wouldn't let me. Bastards.
     
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    I recently went on vacation and my password needed to be reset for my work email (which can only be done from the office) so I was totally unplugged during my time off. Best. Vacation. Evar!! WE usually do two a year and last year I stayed plugged in only to have to answer stupidity that could have waited until my return. Putting the Crackberry down is essential for happiness.
     
  14. IrateCustomer

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    This is truth for me. Mobile devices are wireless leashes. There's an old saying, "Nobody is more important than the person in front of you". When I'm on vacation, my wife and sometimes my kids are the only people in front of me. I will even leave the phone in the hotel room just to make sure it doesn't interrupt. Making memories is way more important than a freaking email, which in three days you'll forget you had. There's a whole lot of life to live outside work.
     
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    This is interesting. My girlfriend who I've only been dating for about two months is all about traveling. She wants to go to all sorts of god damn places I really don't have a lot of interest in going, like safaris in Africa and stuff. I am more of a beach and relaxation guy myself. That said, I am open to trying these things as long as we can get into some sort of rotation where we can alternate who gets to pick what types of trips we'd go on.

    Still don't get wtf women place so much emphasis on traveling the world. Reminds me of another thread recently about women on online dating who mention travel so much on their profiles.
     
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    I feel you. I used to love to travel, up until my late 20s. I literally spent every summer in graduate school and a summer in college travelling all over the place. There are European cities I know nearly as well as I know my home town (that is, I know the cheap places to eat, and the shopping). Just adding up all of the time now, I've spent in excess of 6 months in Paris and 3 months in Spain, much of it in Northern Spain.

    But these days, I only voluntarily travel for business, and I stay in a either a corporate chain hotel with a decent gym or wherever is convenient to the event I am attending. Room service is important, because the last thing I want after a day working is having to figure out where to eat. We did have a pretty nice family vacation on Orcas Island, and the best part of that was getting to actually read a book on the porch, and watching the kids play on the beach.

    For some reason, women seem obsessed with doing activities. I just wanna chill out and *not* do activities.
     
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    So they can tell (read: brag to) their girlfriends about where they went & show pictures. Also, this:


     
  18. patrickBOOTH

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    You have a wife and kids? I always pictured you as like an 18 year old kid... :confused:


    I hear this. My girlfriend is an explorer. Even on holidays when we are both off like this coming Monday she wants to have an excursion of some sort. I'd rather read books at the cafe. I think we are going to settle on going to the Cloisters Museum since we have always wanted to go, but t0o lazy to treck up to the Northern tip of Manhattan.
     
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    It really is a thing though. I don't understand it. Also my girlfriend rather go to 3rd world countries and such. I think it stems from her social anxiety. I think she doesn't feel like she has to fit in, or look cool, or have any of those pressures that her job, or New York circles put on you. I think she finds it freeing.

    Many other girls are either Facebook whores, or hedonists! ;)
     
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    I pretty much told my girlfriend that I'd rather not go on any vacation where I could potentially be killed -- whether it be by some wild animal or some dangerous natives in a third world country. ANything else I'd at least entertain the idea of.

    My idea of a perfect vacation is sitting on a beach with clear oceans, ice cold alcoholic beverage in hand, getting a sun tan and eating lots of awesome food.:satisfied:
     

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